ok so i decided to try and hit it off with her but how do i do that? with our past history how should i try to advance on her? if i come on to strong would that cue her off as to my motive? should i lean back and watch for IOI's b4 i make any move? please help ALMOST completely lost help please
-Sweater

First off, a little bit more information would be nice.

From the gist of your post, this sounds like a recent situation that I found myself in. I have an acquaintance at school that I have known/flirted a little with for a few months. Recently I ran into her at a bar and all that I needed was some good conversation, including a little sexual innuendo, and good kino escalation. I got her real hot and bothered when she looked at me like she wanted to kiss me real real bad and I ignored it. I number closed her that night and told her about a concert that I was going to be at the next night. The next night she came to the concert and I resumed my kino right where I left off. By like 11pm we were making out in a cab headed to my place.

The point of my tale is that I think you should take the flirting up a notch and use good kino. The rest will be up to you.

Depends on how long you have known her. To long, nearly impossible, as she would know any and all dirt (sex or otherwise). If its relatively short, you got a good chance, cause you already seem nice and trustworthy (if you did things right and your naturally as such). If in the middle, this is where I would just cozy up to a movie on a bed or couch, and somewhere in it, or at the end, just kiss her. Dont fear it, just..... kiss her. Worst: its awkward and embarrassing, but you did it. She knows youre interested. If shes a real friend she will stick around. If not, she's not on your level of maturity yet (or so you want her to think, which is a neg and a DHV). Most importantly, dont pursue after a failure, let her come around or wait a while, and let her see you've moved on. This will make her feel like she has to prove her worth again. But, most importantly, never break off contact. Always keep an open dialogue, even if its about trivial and mundane shit you care nothing about. Just make sure she cares about it. Some how slip in how she missed a good time, tell a few stories, and make her WANT to be with you.

Ive done this a few times with some of the chicks Im friends with. I still get to fuck a few of them time to time, and Im still friends (in good standing no less) with all of them. Communication on what you want is key, and dont try to work an angle on them if they know you well. Hope this helps.

kino is very important in the situation I gave you. Make sure its no pressure kino. Eventually follow her body language and move to the kiss.

Go out together, have a few drinks, bring her back to your place, if you're friends this shouldn't be hard to come up with a reason. When you are at your place lay down on your bed and talk, turn the conversation to more intimate stuff, start goin kino as you are laying in the bed, move things very slowly and make sure she's comfortable. As you are laying next to each other, rub her shoulders, and very slowly move your hands down, the trick is to take it slow. good luck!

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i was/am in a similiar situation, biggest tip i can share is not to go into heavy no matter how strong the IOI's are/get. check my topic out if you want to know not what to do/avoid. haha.

The only caviet I would have with the advise above is that your bed might not be the best place to initiate the first of the Kino. Try to pick it up a knotch prior to that. Get a feeling of her response.