K im in a relationship(?) with a woman who has a creepy asshole boyfriend.

Need to know how to get rid of him basicaly. we'll call him Mike, Call her Mindy and call Mikes wife Carla.

Here's where it gets complex.
Our relationship (hotel rooms, back of my car, etc.) is great and niether of us wants to go on dates or nothing, just sex and fun talking to each other. But for many other reasons we have to keep our relationship a secret, and as such Mindy cant use me as an excuse to get rid of Mike. in fact nothing shes tried will get him mad for more than a day before he forgives her and states they are back together.

He has a wife who he is still seeing ocasionally, (for week vacations every couple of months) but still wants a divorce with her. He stalks Mindy and even gets his sister to follow her. he is also very immature and irresponsible (yes i have examples but this page isnt near long enough) and will not leave her alone.

She told me she is starting to get depressed and has told Mike many times that they are over, she cant trust him, hes an alcoholic, the sex is horrible, etc. But he Just says "Your my girlfriend and thats the way it is."

before i get off topic, if you guys could give me anything to try, anything at all to get rid of him, it would be greatly appreciated. Seriously this is starting to get out of hand and most everyone is worried for her, especaily once they find out he has hospitalized his wife Carla before.

And no this isnt one-itis, i just dont like seeing her in a bad relationship and want to help.

Holy crap.

Sorry I'm a bit confused. So Mike is married to Carla, but dating Mindy on the side, both of whom are being physically abused by Mike. You are fooling around with Mindy, but don't like her situation and want to help.

I say cut your losses and get out before Mike starts physically abusing you! This guy seems like a badass, and not the good kind of badass like Mark Wahlberg, but the bad kind of badass like Biff Tannen.

Get out, and good luck dude.

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A great lawyer knows the judge.
Be the latter.

This isn't your problem, it's hers. Tell her to get a restraining order or something in order to keep him away from her, but don't get involved.

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I think its time to go on Jerry.

well she finally got rid of him, for the most part. turns out their families are close so he still watches her, but it is over. thanks for the advise guys. she will be getting a restraining order on him if he tries anything. and now i can move on, kinda. shes still my superviser...