im not sure why i like this girl so much, because she is not THAT great, but i have really strong feelings for her. Shes probably a HB8 on a good day, but shes just got something about her that made me fall really hard for her. Weve been apart for about 2 months now and yesterday i saw her kissing another guy. I know that i should just move on but its really rattled me deep. Any pointers on how to get past this? i REALLY need help because i suffer from depression and its just the worst feeling in the world

I feel ya.. this happened to me and it took awhile to get over it...


It might be hard but try your hardest to get her outta ur life... i know she is your one-itis but she has found someone and obviously its not you..


my best piece of advice is to talk to as many other girls as you can and find someone else

Get out more and talk to as many girls as you can. You might just need attention from other girls to get over it.

im in college (Michigan State University) and there are girls allllll over. I go to parties but when i DONT get with a girl there, it just bums me out even more

I feel ya brother. I have been there and can tell you that there is no 'secret cure' to a broken heart. You will read a lot of guys tell you that you should just go hook up with a bunch of other girls. And while that will definitely get your confidence going again, and take your mind off of her to some degree, its not going to just make you stop thinking about this other girl. The only thing that will really get you over anything is time.

I agree that you should not dwell on this girl, but you will have feelings about her and feel rotten at times. Just feel that stuff but dont let it change your thoughts and get your bogged down. You cant figure out your feelings, you just have to feel them. I recommend picking up the book 'the power of now'. Someone else on here recommended it to me and it has been a great read.

thanks man, im gonna pick that up today. ive been trying to keep busy, hang out with my friends to keep my mind off of it. Luckily, the only thing that can get my mind off of it is coming up soon....im starting training for wrestling again (hence my name: grappler) at the end of the month. thats the only thing that has ever really kept me sane haha.

I look at it this way:

Shes kissed people

You've kissed people

You both know this about one another. The only difference between you and her is that you actually saw her doing this.

Would affect you the same way if you were told she was making out with some guy? My guess is no. You would probably just brush it off. My advice is to just game her like you naturaly would even if you didnt see her kissing someone else. If you treat it like nothing, then it becomes nothing.

I agree with this. However, if you are going to game her and sleep with her again, just dont get your hopes up that things will be different. I have done this before and it will only hurt you again. Now if you just want to have some fun with her and not get involved, you will have to get your dick out of your heart.

i honestly dont talk to her anymore. everytime i do, i just get bitter and it never turns out well. the thing about this situation is that i honestly just want to get past her more than get back with her. its very annoying

I just keep myself from having those feelings, i like them and want them but it only makes me act AFC. It does kinda suck that once you really fall for a girl, to be yourself is unnattractive but if you arent really interested shes crazy about you.
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