| Okay, so this is straight out of "The Game," but it resonated with me. When somebody compliments you, just thank them. According to Style, it's the only self-assured response you can make.
Here's my elaboration on that idea. If you embellish: "Thanks, but I don't look like anything special," you come across as needy and searching for additional validation.
If you respond in kind, "Thanks. You look fabulous too," I can see several negative outcomes. One, you reinforce for the girl that giving a compliment is a means of getting validation in return. Two, you cheapen the exchange by turning it into a dull, rote conversation. _________________ Some vices miss what is right because they are deficient, others because they are excessive, in feelings or in actions, while virtue finds and chooses the mean.
Aristotle, Ethica Nichomachea
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