Yep, keep going up the kino escalation ladder... Here's a snippet from an article I wrote for RSDnation.com
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Failing to Lead the Interaction
I can boil almost any sticking point down to a failure to lead. Whether it be physically, verbally, sexually, emotionally, the root cause is always the same.
This happens in the bedroom too. You have to LEAD the woman.
Ever since the days of cavemen and women, a female’s biggest concern is being ostracized from her peer group.
In current day society, the harshest criticism a woman can receive is being labeled as a slut. For this reason, women are very apprehensive about making any sexual advances.
You cannot be waiting for her to give you a “sign” to take the next step. She is not going to take charge. You can’t wait for her to initiate, it will never happen. You need to take ALL responsibility off of her so she doesn’t have to worry about the social repercussions.
Put your balls on the line and GO FIRST. She will follow your lead, HAPPILY.
Take it as far as you can, don't wait for her to give you a sign, it will never come.
Also, listen to her body, not her words... She might be like "We shouldn't be doing this..."
And you go "You're right, we shouldn't be doing this." But keep escalating.
Get to the point where you recognize the difference between token resistance and ACTUAL uncomfortable resistance...