So there is this girl i met at my new high school and this girl is a real nice girl. Originally i didnt like her i just thought she was real pretty but now im starting to like her. But this isnt major oneitis were i cant like other girls while i like this one. but basically i wana know what should i do. Like we text every now and then. we always talk in school always in the hall. and one day when i decided to act distant. i tried to ignore her or barely acknowledge her. and so when lunch ended she left as fast as she could not talking to anyone, she didnt come to her tenth period computer class(she can either do that/or go to math,she has a choice) and we always see each other there. and we texted and i called her after school and she said i was mean and everything. so we get over it i tell her its kind of cute when she does that and blah blah. then like i started huggin her whenever i saw her the next day and she like told me after the fifth hug that hugs dont mean anything unless they havent seen the person in a long time. oh and also i found out she really likes and i quote "sexy chocolate men make me happy".(and im mixed with black and white) but she also has a guy that she really likes at her church that there bout to basically go out(whos white, she likes all types of guys but black guys the most). so what do i do? what does all this stuff mean? please the help would be greatly appreciated.

Not sure why so many of your are afraid of actually asking a girl out but there's nothing AFC about asking a girl out. Why are you sitting there and doing this, doing that, and analyzing everything . . . but NOT asking her out?

How about just asking her out? There are millions of high school kids scoring every day by simply saying, "Any plans Friday?"

"No"

"You want to check out ______ with me?"

"Maybe."

"I think it'll be really fun so I'll give you a call on Friday."

"OK."

Amen! I got most my dates in high by just opening and then talking with them then just asking directly if they'd like to go out. Most girls don't get out on dates much anymore anyway so right there she's already into it.

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well yea i know that. but like to go on a date with this girl you have to ask her parents. so thats why?shes never even kissed a guy. im way more expeirenced. and im like just tryin to make sure be4 i do anything.

I think I understand what you're saying... you want to do stuff right because you think she's something special or different or whatever.. I understand that and you run across girls like that which is cool. You just can't give off that vibe. You have to not care, because she will pick up on that. (or maybe I'm out in left field and I don't know what you mean haha)

'Risk a loss to make the gain'

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Really? You are waaaay more experienced? Then act like it, stop being a wuss, and ask her out.

What the hell are you trying to MAKE SURE of exactly with all your "blah, blah, blah . . ."??

yeah i know the inner afc is in me. but like see if it were any other girl. i kno i could do it but like the real thing botherin me is that she has a guy she really likes at her church. but the weird thing is she rarely brings him up in conversation unless i do. but thats the thing that throws me off.

Don't bring him up. You're better than him anyway.

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You just "blah blah blah" 'ed again. This is such a drain of your energy. You're leaking all of your vital strength with all this crap. You bring the guy up and that throws you off? What is going on here?

You're lying to yourself. Based on what you wrote, it's clear you have never done this with this or any other girl. Go out. See a girl you like, talk with her . . . then go, "Hey, what are you doing this Friday?" And follow through what I suggested.

Do this over and over and over again. All of your defensive mechanisms to prove that you have some sort of "game" is fucking you up and the longer you keep that act up, the less likely you will be to step it up. This is soooooo simple that once you do it 10 times and secure 5 dates out of 10 tries, you will laugh, laugh, laugh, and laugh at the way you once were.

Why wait another day?