Yo, newbie here. Basically an AFC (from my impression of what i have read), and basically had had one-itis for the whole of my life.

Been in 4 serious relationships, all long term with 10's. Put serious work in chasing them and getting them but never can keep them ultimately, and always for the same reasons - they seem to lose interest, i get needy, i get a little jealous and i let that get to me, gradually get isolated, never get to see them and then it all sort of unravel to being friends and you know the rest... i get used as a buddy for the next 6 months as they leach the life out of me until they find someone new.

Anyway, my current girl is probably a 6.5 and i spent NO time chasing her... she came after me. Thought she was different but i was mistaken and now i realise that she operates exactly the same as any of my ex girls, who were all 10's. Thought she was different because she is more of an independant sort, turns out it is worse because i can't take advantage of her vulnerabilities.


ANYWAY, without further ado my prob here and my question here, is she seems to be losing interest and gravitating away. Im seeing less of her because she is "always busy" and making less effort to want to see me.

Complicating factors r, spend a lot of our time after dates going to her place not mine because she lives far away, hangin out with her ppl more than mine because the majority of the times i see her now is her functions when she has time.... there is still great chemistry one on one when i see her but she isn't interested in making much time for one on one any more.

The question is - should i cut her loose and work on my one-itis issue more, or do you think there are techniques that i could employ to reaassert my dominance...

i know that is contradictory... like being wussy enough to let her walk all over me but still try to win her back... but i am confident that she would be a good thing in my life if i could re frame the relationship (get her where i want her - i was slack because.. i thought she was different becase i didnt chase her for a year)

Long winded, but any tips?