70% of the time im around people at my school i dont know well or dont like i get really tense the other 30% of the time im relaxed and playfull round people i dont know or dont like i dont get what keeps happening, my face kinda tenses up and sometimes when i start thinking about my breating (i used to breathe quite loudly) it makes me kindof mess up my breathing and i almost start suffocating... that happens a bit less though

wierd huh? any ideas?

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Sounds like you keep shifting your attention back to you. Stop being such an attentionwhore! !

Nah. Take it chill.

Force yourself to focus on the task at hand. Don't give a fuck about yourself. Ever tried not to shower nor shave for five days? DO IT! No one really cares tbh.

You need more confidence.

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that is a perfectly normal, and very common, text book nervous-reaction. i've gotten it before, and i'm sure most of us here have gotten it as well. my best advice for you is:

- practice makes perfect. the more you do it, the more comfrotable you'll get with this type of situation.

- remember to breathe. control your breathing.

- keep your posture, and physically demonstrate alpha qualities. you'll find that acting this way, makes you eventually feel this way.

- picture her naked. it sounds stupid but this is a confidence-gver in public speaking and interview situations.

- have fun and enjoy the challenge. le tthe challenge motivate you to perform your best.

- expect good things. inner game is important.

yes picture her naked, that should fix ur breathing lol, but yeh i shud try that, it might get me more agressive if i picture her naked but then i wont focuz on the get to know her part