Hello all !

I would like to present You guys my story and ask for advices and tips how to get it to the happy end.
Its really important for me and thats why I registered on your forum. Btw, sorry for english mistakes I made, english is not my native language but Ill do my best!
Ill try to descibe as many details, Ill try to be objective, as possible because I think it can be helpfull for anyone who is willing to help me.
Im new to pua community, I made a lot of research, I read some books but as I said I dont wont to destroy it so I have to ask You too.
Im 25 yo student, good looking, medium hight, with style in terms of clothing. I had few girls in my life but nothing serious.

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Almost one year ago I went to haircut salon in my city and when I entered I felt for miliseconds thunder in my eyes and heart as a result of seing very cute girl who worked there. I dont know if she felt the same but she keept her eyes on me for few seconds too. She made me haircut, we got casual chat and I went home. On the internet I found she is photomodel (not famous or anything like that - just pretty girl, cute face), also I found her on community site and noticed she has a boyfriend. I send her msg to add her to my friends - she agreed and next time she said that she adds new ppl very rarely. She send me more of her pictures too.

So I went for haircut another time and another... We talked about different things, she asked me about many things, she remembered details from previous conversations (was surprised but she said she has good memory) etc. On third or 4th time she wrote me down her personal mobile phone number, different than saloon number on which you have to call to arrange haircut. But I didnt make any move as I thought her relations with BF are pretty serious.

Weeks after weeks I was going to this hairsaloon to meet her, to make a haircut even if I didnt need it. With each next meeting we had better contact, more casual, more funny, with small flirt. But it didnt lead anywhere, she has BF etc. So I started to going to her more rarely. Not 3 weeks brake but 1-2 months.

During one of such longer breaks before my haircuts I got sms msg one day afternoon from her. "I havent seen you for such long time, what happens ? Do you let your hairs grow ?" Something along those lines.
Then I went to her but It resulted with same, funny casual meeting like others.

So I made a long break again. Then I went few times... I got as you call it IOI many times. She sat next to me, when I had my hair washed by her assistent, and play with her hair (normally she waits at reception of saloon), she brought a laptop once to show me her pictures (and her boyfriend) but I could feel and see her look, there was happening sth or she was just flirting.

Once I put picture of model on this community site I mentioned. And she made a comment under it "who is that nice lady ?" And I know for sure from her friend she knows who is it.

And we have actual situation. I went to her few days ago. 1st day with friend cause he wanted to get haircut - this day she said how awfull I look with my hair and she made me a hair styling (without pay) after my friend gone. Next day I came to get proper haircut. This time she said me she broke out with his boyfriend who poisoned his life and she wanna begin new phase in her life. She is thinking about small tatoo to symbolise it but dont have idea what words she should make.
We talked more and she said she has to go for a party this day. And I made a mistake... I should say sth like this "If youll make me nice haircut Ill take you with me" And I said: "With whom youll go?" She after a short while said" with my male friend. This day and others she also asked me about personal things like where Im going at the evening, with who etc.

I didnt want to ask her out this day because I thought it gonna look stupid. I didnt do anything for almost whole year but just after she told me about breaking with his BF Ill make move. I thought it could look like im desperate about her.

But later I thought I could use motive with party, its good reason to ask her out, casually. And I wont look desperate as SHE told me she wanna go party and I just use this reason. So few hours I went from her I wrote her msg "Do you wanna still go for a party ? Because I do. Ill talk with my friend and she told me there is nice party this night in x club, so maybe we will go together ?"
After few hours she answered " No thanks Im going with my friend:) Have a good time !" I wrote "You too ;p"

So here is my story... What should be my next move ? Do I have chances ? You have to know its atractive girl who probably has a lot of adorators.

Thanks for all help, its really important for me.

Nesta,

I have to first off say I'm a little jaded by posts about One-Itis. Everyone feels there situation is unique and in many ways it is. However, it usually comes down to the same few choices. Before I get to those let's look back on this objectively.

You have known her for some time. She is an attractive girl that works in a hair salon to make money. She knows that she is attractive, and she knows that you like her. She knows this based on how often you used to show up and see her.

She knows who you are and what you act like. She has had many opportunities to study this. So any advice you receive that says go in and says this, if it isn't you she'll know it isn't congruent. You have already made your impression on her. I know she had a boyfriend but that isn't code for you can't hit on a girl. Many times girls have boyfriends doesn't mean she isn't looking for something better. We should have made a move a while back.

Good job asking her out but you got turned down. You can always try again.

You basically have 3 moves

1. Forget the girl, and find someone else. I highly recommend this because it's easier to attract new people in your life than old ones.

2. Go balls out and tell the girl how you feel. It's a 50/50 chance at succeeding.

3. Keep doing what you're doing and get the same results.

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