I am new to this, and have been working on a HB9 for a while. All seemed well, been doing the C+F stuff, F closed and after about 6 weeks she gave me the not sure I can do this anymore. So I didn't do the needy thing, I just said I wouldn't force her to carry on seeing me and if she didn't want to then so be it.

The thing is I now see her as a bit of a challenge. I want to see if I can get her back to wanting me and so far I have struggled.

So far this is what I have done, I called her up a few weeks after we stopped seeing eachother and she was busy, she called me back a little while later and said we should catch up over coffee. I tried to get her to commit to a time but she said she would text me when she was around. She didn't and then after a week and a bit, I called her again and told her there must be something wrong with her phone because clearly her texts weren't getting through. She seemed to find this funny and was very apologetic about not setting up a meeting. She is now going away for a week and said we should catch up when she gets back. I know she won't call or text. What should my next move be ??

Your next move should be to forget her. Her IL is very low, not worth the hassle. She is making excuse after excuse...girls with high IL don't do that. You are coming across as a needy, clingy guy, stop it.

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Sinful, I think your right and before I started reading all this I did think I was playing it wrong. I think the reason she binned me off was I got needy and clingy.

I just want to know if there is any tactic for getting her back into my mindset. If not I reckon your advice is good, if I am going to embrace this stuff I need to know when to walk !!!!

Have 2 on the go since her anyway, but there is something about her that just challenges me !!!

Thanks

Challenge <--- There is the magic word, the reason she has you hooked. What you need to do is become the challenging one. Women love challenge. It's the only 'drug' that will keep her around, plus she won't know which way is up.

If she becomes the aggressor, you will be viewed as fun, different and mysterious. And we all know what mystery does to a woman's IL.

Begin by distancing yourself, stop calling, emailing, texting and focus on the other 2. She will start to wonder why you stopped talking to her. This is great because it puts YOU in the drivers seat. Once this happens, you can begin with the push/pull tactic.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene