F-closed a girl last nite. She has a bf in England who comes back twice a year. He is rich n as well treat her like shit, but she loves him so much. They have been together for 3 n a half yaers. I f-closed her at the place which they first met. She doesnt like me and I told her "you wll like me one day, i m sure, u just dont know it now" she laughed at me n said that s impossible. I keep sayin similar wordings 'i just want to tell u i like u, i dont need u to like me although i m sure u ll 'n she started askin me question like"i ve never seen a person who has such confidence like you" "Do u always do that to girls?" "even if i like u , i wont be with u " "i m so annoyin n u ll get bored soon" "u dont know me well, u dont know the real me" i m wonderin how the seduction works in this situation. Any advices could be given.

So, angry sex?

Here's how I see it. She's putting up a challenge to see if you are man enough to sweep her off her feet and away from a guy she only sees 3 times a year. 'Cause come on, THREE times a year.

In life and relationships it's all about proximity. You spend more time with her, you hang out with her, you let her become comfortable with you, you have sex on a regular basis...guess what, she's your girlfriend. She'll realize it too eventually, and when it comes time to choose between you and the guy she sees 3 times a year, it won't be a choice at all.

It's like the Highschool sweetheart syndrome. You go off to college and you say all the right things, but because you are separated by the laws of time and space you grow apart.

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i just wonder wt i could do to make her think of me when she is alone.
i think, at least this moment, too many show ups ll lower my value coz I admit I like her n she ll take it for granted. Also, another guy is hittin on her as well. So, I could nt totally ignore her coz the other guy ll take advantage of it. Wt should i do then? Thanks so much

I see so many red flags there. She's most definitely a LSE (Low Self Esteem) girl. She claims to love a boyfriend who treats her like shit and her style of qualifying to you involves putting herself down and fishing for compliments rather than trying to impress you.

Run away as fast as you can!

However, if you think you're man enough to handle it and you're confident that you can leave her better than you found her, use all that sexual tension to your advantage to... umm... wait... what do you want from her?

yesterday, she found i lied to her which i told her i onli like her the other day n i said it might be possible that i would like someone else n she cried n she was totally disappointed. Somethings bad happened yesterday coz the other man whom she treats her a buddy said some rule things to her. she was so sad n she called me, then she found out i lied to her. I try so hard to stop her cryin n now she said she lost her confidence on me though i insisted i didnt lie. I know she s so care about wt we did the other night n she asked me so many questions why i did that n how do i think she is. In fact, i think she s totally conscious that nit n she knew wt she s doin, she just doesnt want to bear the responsibilities. I guess that is kind of anti slut machanism. I said tons of romantic wds to her n i said i ll wait for her n she ll know she loves me eventually. She tells me to wait n i ll realize that i dont love her.

I'm not really understanding your goal. Do you want to turn her into your girlfriend? Do you want to just F her once in a while?

Anyhow, forget the "other guys". The guy in Europe, the guy at the North Pole, etc . . . This girl will always have some "guy, somewhere".

Look, if you really, really want this girl, then that's up to you. Just remember 1 thing:

When she's with other guys, you're the "guy from somewhere". And depending on her mood, you're going to be the "guy from somewhere" who is a loser, liar, or a shit talker, nice guy, whatever she wants to vent, etc . . .

You need to show her how much better life is with you! The girl needs attention from whoever is close and she does not want to get too involved either because her BF gives her security (financial social etc) and she does not have to meet him very often. I could imagine having a rich but boring GF that hands me anything I want if I only have to sleep with her a few times a year... He is the sucker, she is using him. If you want to take his place then go for it...
And dont be offended when she cheats on you...