Background
This girl and I were in a LTR for about 9 months, spent everyday together. Things went pretty great until she went away to school and thing became long distance (2.5hr drive). So after a month of this I didn't feel the relationship was the same nor her interest so I broke it off and went no contact. She called me 2 weeks later saying how much she missed me blah blah and we made plans to meet up when she was in my neck of the woods. Never happened (I got way to hammered to meet up with her), and I told her I would make it up to her drive down and take her out for dinner. After thinking about that bitch move I said nah forget, we gotta go our separate ways or its gonna be back and forth. She said fine. Two more weeks pass and shes in my area calls me up, we meet, and spend the weekend together banging, hanging out etc. While together she asked me if I had been with anyone, no I say, I of course ask her the same and she says no, guys tried to kiss her but that was it. Whatever. She swore up and down she never slept with anyone while we were apart (about a month) because she still had feelings for me. Shes an HB8-9. She is talking about a future together a leaving school when this is done to move back home.

Problem
I am having trust issues here when I probably shouldn't. I am a good looking, confident guy, but I have issues when it comes to honesty, I hate being lied to. I have seen facebook pictures with guys arms around her, and where people look coupled off. In one a guy who always hangs out at her and her room mates place is kissing her on the cheek. In another series this other guy is sitting beside her in every picture. I am bothered by this (I know we were not dating but she swears she has not been, or seeing anyone while we were apart and these pictures make me feel like she is lying.) I am not sure if I should confront her about them and if so how I should go about it without looking like an insecure guy. Truth is, if she was honest about things from the get go and said ya she fooled around, no problem. But I want to straighten this out so we can move on, otherwise I will move on.

Goal
I want to pursue the relationship, and I dont want a brief lapse of insecurity to make me make a wrong choice.

Also, would it be wrong to go ask a mutual friend (guy who is dating her roommate) what she was up too and if he has any info or if what she was saying was legit.

I have a cross between oneitus and a I just want the truth so I can make my decision and move the fuck on, I have no trouble dropping her in a second if she was lying.

You are on a slippery slope my friend. Let's boil this little problem down to what really matters: Do you trust her or not?

No matter what you do to "get to the bottom" of things to find out if she actually did fool around with someone else, you will never be satisfied. You have to make a decision. Do you trust her?

I would caution about starting the relationship back up when you are questioning her honesty. I know you SAY it's not her hooking up with other guys while you were apart that would bother you, but if that is really true, you should have never asked the question in the first place.

If you were apart, then you were apart. It is none of your business what she was doing or who she was doing it with.

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Ya, it is tuff..

On the one hand, I know girls love getting pics with guys for attention and social status. Did she cross a line and lie? If she admitted it it would bother me but I would appreciate the honosty and accept it since we were not a couple for that month. But she has sworn up and down nothing happnened. She still has pictures of me on her wall and on facebook of us together. She just said something the other day on the phone about how she made the right chocie with me. If I was a cheater this would be no problem, I have gotten many numbers and what have you while we were apart, but I just did that to practice game, which I also use on her. I am being AFC on this forum, so I dont have to be AFC when around her.

I am seeing her tomorrow she is taking the bus to come see me, I wonder if I should t ask her again, 'listen, I just want to clear the air so we can move forward, what you did when we were apart is cool, I have no problems with that, its expected, but be honost with me about it' She trusts me to the hilt as I have proved time and time again I am straight up (I really am), but I am no chump and wont waste my time with a liar when there exists hotter, better girls out there.


Its very confusing to me becasue I know hot girls get hit on and guys love hanging around them , I accept that that, but I am anal about being honost when it comes to serious shit. I am just wondering if when I look at the pics and it all is going to my head with the insecurities (without facebook I would not even think about it) I dont want it to make me end a potentially healthy and happy relationship.

You almost completely missed my point.

She has NOTHING to be honest or dishonest about. It's none of your business what she did while you were apart. If you can't deal with not knowing, then move on.

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I see what ur sayin bro, I can deal with the TRUTH, but I can't stand not knowing it. Your right tho, if I am gonna make it work jus forget about it and move forward, if your focusing on the past u got your back to the future

There ya go, bro! Just be in the moment. If you have fun with her and enjoy spending time together, then just let the past be the past. She didn't betray you in any way, no matter if she was with someone else or not, because the fact is that she would rather have been with you...

"The past is history, the future is a mystery, but today is a gift. That's why they call it the present."

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