Okay so I've been with this girl for the whole week now, we've dated two times and we've hung out everyday after class. We've already made out in the theaters, kissed in the park, etc. This girl seems like she always wants to be with me. But then today as we were flirting in the library I saw her laptop and it had a picture of her ex boyfriend as the desktop wallpaper and I realized that the class ring she was wearing wasn't hers but her ex's too! I usually give her a kiss before I leave and this time I totally ignored her, I kinda feel bad too, but oh well.

Is this girl a total slut and I'm being played or do you think she just didn't care to change the wallpaper and she's wearing the ring as a fashion statement?

I'm thinking about approaching her and asking her why she still keeps her ex's stuff like this. Good or bad idea? and if she does still like him, I'm going to tell her to make up her mind and then come talk to me.

I wouldn't bring it up, you'll look really insecure. You've only been together a bit and it's not like you're in a massively serious relationship, so I wouldn't put the pressure on her. Just wait and see where things lead.

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Rye is right.

Look you're also in dangerous territory if you panic in any way. Right now, you are fun and a relief, now...

If this is one you want for a relationship and not to just be her rebound, you will want her to invest in you. Whether it's making you food or picking you up from a friend's house. This will help her look at you as someone more than a post break-up kissy toy.

Hope this helps.

Peace.

No, don't do that. Just take the relationship sexual ASAP and show her a better time (in and out of bed) than her ex did. She will forget about him in time. Don't even mention her ex, and if she brings him up then change the subject immediately. Never belittle him or talk bad about him.


Ps. If you HAVE to talk about him at all then go the complete opposite way (like say how they are going to get married and live in a big castle, etc...). But generally just don't talk about him at all.

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Okay so I don't ask her about the wallpaper and the ring, but then how do I know if I'm not the rebound? and how do I apologize for not giving her the kiss?

Dude just enjoy whatever relationship you have. Why does it matter if she's still getting over the guy?! She's with you, so as long as you guys are enjoying yourselves, then it doesn't matter!

Don't appologize for not kissing her, just keep going. Like Plethora said, escalate and take it sexual.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

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