Ok, heres the story quicktime: This girl and I dated exclusively for 9 months, hung out/slept together everyday, met the families, went on a trip to the carribean etc. She goes away to school 2.5 hrs away, its hard to deal with, I get a feeling shes feelin cramped, we argue on the phone a lot, I visit her, shes not as needy as she once was so I just end it (I felt like she would have herself anyway, its not what I wanted but I didnt want it to dither away). So we dont talk for a few weeks, then we talk for a week straight and I blow off a date we had planned near where I live cause I was way to hammered. She then wants me to come visit her to make up for it and take her out, which I ALMOST do but then realize that is a bitch move and not sure where this is going. We break up again and dont talk for 2 weeks.

Then she calls me saying she is coming near me (she does not have a car, that is/was one of the problems we had when LTR) so I say cool we can meet up. We bang a ton of times in the next two days and I drive her back to her school casue she missed her ride. Now she is calling me a lot and texting me and I am not sure how to handle it. I want to be with her but we are not clear on our relationship status, I kind of trust her, but not going to push the issue. She called me today saying she wnts to meet up she will be in the area, I have to flip my schdual around to accomadte that, which I told her, and then she said fine im not coming then. Anyway, I know that was a mistake and a shit test of me to accomadate her into my busy day, but my question now is, how do I handle it/her when we meet. She is 20.

is she still your g/f or not and dont give me the " i dont know" answer cause then thats a "NO" just be like, "look i already have plans and i'm not just gonna flip it around because its convenient for you" Be Sturdy with the statement or else she is just gonna keep doing this to you. I figured you wanna still be on good terms with her and work things out but the way i see it she think she can just come over have her fun and then go back. Now heres my question.. what are you wanting to do with this replationship? do you still wanna get back together or just say "fuck it"?

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Thanks for your reply....


I would like the relationship to go forward, she has indicated this to me somewhat as well by talking about the future together, saying she is monogamous blah blah and calling herself my girlfriend in a text message to someone. She was looking at pictures of us last night on her computer while on the phone and going through all the 'amazing memmories'. She is also skipping an exam to come see me.

This girl is young and easily EASILY succeptable to game. How should I game her when I meet up because I already flipped things around to make it so.

well i wouldnt try to "game" her my advice is take this to the relationship forum. I havent been in one for like 5 years but it takes work.
2.5 hours isnt so bad but then i hate any long distance relationship. I find that Relationship is harder then running game. You have to make many sacrifices, lots of fights and arguments, devotion of time. trust issues (many many trust issues). I hope you find happiness with her if it all works out for you. Good luck.

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