hey guys,

met this girl twice in the laundry so we exchanged facebooks and numbers, I'm afraid she's been declining any invitations to clubs, etc. just goes out with her own mates, so we talk online only pretty much. everyday. and i'm 100% positive she's attracted to me. well, online it seems, however when i meet her she acts completely different.

so my question is, how to make her feel comfortable enough so we can go from textual so sexual?

cheers

Its all about who you are in person. Im hopeing you act the same as you do online. Next would be to further show value. And maybe shes not comfortable going out alone with you uet so next time see if you could tag along with her. Bring some friends with so you guys have your own entorage(also a DHV).

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that's the problem, i haven't invited her to come with me so it's just the 2 of us, i always said why don't you tag along with us(me and 2 of my close mates) or grab a few girls and join us, that's when she still declines

well if she declines it when you are with a group try asking her to just go with you.

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Well you said she goes out with her own friends right?
See if maybe you can't get a big group going, you bring your friends, she brings hers and you all party together.
Make sure you bring a few female friends too, so that you display pre-selection. No woman is going to be comfortable with a guy who doesn't have any female friends.

I think maybe she'd feel uncomfortable tagging along with your friends, next time ask to tag along with her friends. Put the shoe on the other foot, let her see how good you are with HER friends and maybe she'll be more willing to go out with you.

As for going from textual to sexual,that may be coming on a bit strong and I know if I was chatting with a guy online and whenever we met in person all he wanted to do was get in my pants, I'd never wanna party with him. I'm not saying that's what you do, but it may be how you come off.

Work hard on building friendship first. Even if you two are having cybersex, it's a lot easier to lower your inhibitions online than IRL.

Let her get comfortable with you, offer to meet up for things that aren't clubbing, coffee, lunch, something very low-key and just shoot the breeze. Invite her to non-clubbing things and she'll get a lot more comfortable with you, a lot faster.

Best of luck,

Cinnamon

thanks guys