Does anybody have any advise going out alone? Here's the thing, I feel like I've pretty much got my approach anxiety under control, but I'm having serious issues with going-out-alone anxiety. Take last night for example. I was in a good mood, feeling talkative, and had even bought some stylish new clothes during the day that I was eager to put on. And then? Sat at home because I didn't have anyone to go out with. Clearly, I gotta suck it up and get over this.

What I'm most worried about is social proof and setting up plausible FTCs. As far as social proof goes, if I'm such a cool guy that people want to hang around, then why aren't people already hanging around me? I don't want to look like some lonely guy who's out trying to get laid. How do I not make it look like a DLV that I'm out by myself?? I'd much rather look like some cool guy who's out with his friends and is willing to talk to people outside my circle.

Which brings me to FTCs. You can't run a line like "I need to get back to my friends, but blah blah blah" if you clearly don't have any friends to get back to. I can't imagine a good scenario that would result in lying about being out with somebody. If the set is going well, then the topic of these people I'm supposedly hanging out with will come up. Then it looks like either they're flakes who blew me off, or they stood me up and never came, or I was just lying about them in the first place. All huge DLVs.

Clearly all of you on this board have a better way of thinking about this than I do, and I need your help straightening myself out on this issue.

Evolve

How about the truth? I assume that you're a pretty cool guy and have friends that would/could roll with you, but just don't for whatever reason. This being said, your reality is what's important, not what's apparent. In other words, it's not exactly the being with friends that matters so much, as having them and being able to maintain them. So being cool is what it boils down to. This is the frame you must have. "I am cool. I am kick ass and I can make friends with anyone." if you can pick up chicks, you can make friends with guys.
This in mind, you can roll to any place by yourself with total confidence. You have a good, valid reason for being alone, so it's not the same as if you're just some lepper with no pals. In set, the truth is always the way to go. If someone asks if you're alone, you can just say that your pals are all busy tonight. Or that you wanted to come out and meet some new people tonight (this one is a sick line, cuz its a massive dhv, showing that you can just go out and meet cool new people whenever. thank Neil Strauss for that one).
At the end of the day, its more about your strong frame then anything. Just know that its cool to be by yourself. and have fun!

it takes alot of balls to go out alone, be proud your doing it. I've done it alot in malls ( not a good pua at all lol). I can't offer no advice becuase who am i to give advice when your prob better then me, but keep at it man, we all want each other to accomplish our goals.

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dude skill level and knowledge don't have to be the same. Why shouldn't you give advice if you have it? If he already knows it, thats fine, but if he doesn't, he grows and that's the whole point, no? btw how do you feel about mall game? I hate it. I used to go out sometimes hoping to pull from malls, but it was just too awkward to be leering around the gap lol what's your experience?

Usually as long as you are keeping them interested, I find they even don't ask. Sometimes they do, and I just say I am going lone wolf tonight. I've gotten some good responses, like "I really respect that."

I mean, your being social so they won't think you have no social skills or whatever. I like Keys to the VIP season 2 episode 13. The Rub'n'tug excuse. Starts at around 3:30

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yLXiC5f_11U[/youtube]

When i first started i was mall gaming (soloing it) i was shaking just at the thought of talking to strangers. Took me 3 seperate times going out just to talk to a store clerk, so many times i'd leave the mall after one hour( cuase i thought ppl noticed me walking around) frustrated and bummed down. I have improved since then, i got 2 dates ( 1 i blew horrible lol) but just trying, just doing it, builds charecter strength, builds the love you have for yourself for accomplishing a goal, at least just trying. A dream will build a man. At the end i rellise its not about teqniques, but inside of yourself. But anyway, mall game is abit akward right? lol specially if you walk past a girl you opened. i remember i walked straight up to 2girls and opened my mouth, then i relised that it was a girl and her mother, then i quickly walked away

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"Crushing requires a crushing mood" Miyamoto Musashi

its good that you are trying to go out on your own. I have many times done this. Just go up with Confidence your objective is to show that even thought you are by yourself, you are a good time and people wanna be with you for example. I travel around the world alot and always Solo Gaming . The best thing to do is to get Rapport with the workers there. Just small talk make some sort of friend. Once you do that you can move into hitting up sets. As for people asking you why you are by yourself ,be cocky&funny Say you want to meet new people who are fun and intresting and that you can have hang around you. Smile alot. Now these are for bars/lounges. At a club its not that much diffrent but its a little trickyer. Once agian befriend the bar tender or the worker there. Use the club to your advantage. What i do is i game up girls near the bar or away from the dance floor then use them to Social proof myself. From there i can open up other set.

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"Live life to the fullest, never look back, remember No regrets" J.f

Hey guys, thanks for the input. Truly appreciated. Dovi and NonStopReaper, I really like both of your pieces of advise. Keep my frame that I don't need to start my night with other people, the party comes to me no matter what. That's exactly the way I need to think about it.

Harleystcool, actually, my day game is much better than my night game. But yeah, malls are weird! I gotta crack that nut.

Macine, great vid! The part about "you're not pretty enough for me, but get me your friends numbers" was priceless. Not sure I'm gonna use the Rub'n'tug excuse though. Lol!

Alright, I'm getting my head around this one. Look for my first FR soon!

Evolve

I honestly prefer going out by myself. For me it's just less stressful knowing I don't have anyone there to rub it in my face if a set blows up in my face. Maybe not the best motivation, but it sure works for me.