Hey

I'm considering myself as a newbie in dating. Not much experience in it. Just recently started looking into how to better with girls.

Okay I chatted up a milf at a nightclub a few weeks ago. We have had Day 2 and Day 3 dates. I'm experiencing less kino from her on D2 and D3 compared to when we met at that nightclub.

At D3 we ate at a restaurant and later went to a pub, she bought me drinks the entire night, free drinks for me We have it fun together, no awkward silence (one of my biggest worries). We were talking all the time and I made her laugh.. Sometimes making fun of her.

At the end of our D3 she said she didn't want to hurt my feelings, she told me she haven't fallen for me, then I replyed "that's okay as I haven't fallen for you either". She told she isn't 18yo anymore and need time to fall in love. Then this girl started holding her hand around my back while we walked down the street.

I got a impression that when girls say that haven't fallen for me, then it's the girl telling me that she don't want to be around me. That a girl want to spend her time better (like chasing better men etc). So when we separated I thought that was it - we will not meet again. I had a talk to my sister about this, she told me not to be needy. Like don't call that girl again as then I would sound needy and desperate. So I didn't call this girl. But now on Saturday this milf called me We talked for about 30 minutes about what's going in in our lifes (I made her laugh). Then this girl suggested we should meet again. I might be stupid but I think that is an IOI?

She have told me that I'm a "nice guy", I mean English is not my main language. But I think "nice guy" is good translation. I consider "nice guy" as something negative

We haven't had sex yet, I'm not sure how to escalate into it
And also if this girl just want to be friend with me then I think maybe it's not a good idea to escalate sexual on her. I don't want to destroy anything of what we have. But indeed I want to sleep with her... Not sure how to escalate it.

Any suggestions?

Stop wasting your time and F her already . . . she wanted to F you 3 dates ago. If you're asking how to actually do this, just make sure you end up in either her place or your place. She'll take care of the rest.