I am a freshmen this year in college. I had envisioned this year to be an amazing year where I meet tons of new people and develop a lot of friendships, meet a lot of girls. It has been the complete opposite. I chose to live in an apartment style dorm that is far away from central because you got your own bathroom and what not. ive come to extremely regret that decision. the dorm isnt even a dorm. there are 4 rooms on a floor and people have to make the effort to walk around meet others, and people don't. I walk around but everyone had their doors closed. it seems like a lot of the people here already had previous highschool friends here too, so they already have a group to hang with. i am friends with the people i share bathrooms with but i cant seem to get to the point where they call me up to see whats up. my school only had 3. i even joined a fraternity to try and meet new people but i live so far away from them that i feel completely disconnected. i plan on dropping out of the fraternity this semester. now its almost halfway through the year and it seems like everyone had developed their own little cliques and groups already. my school has over 20,000 kids, so around 5000 freshmen and i feel extremely lonely. i see people walking down the streets in little groups while i walk alone. beyond friends, is the lack of female friends. i used to be a super loner in highschool and i was obese. i lost 80 pounds and developed new friends and a lot were female friends. i became really good friends with them as well. now im in college and i don't have that good connection with anyone i meet. sure i can talk to them and have a conversation, but i can't seem to get beyond that level and hang out and what not because they seem like they have already "clicked". the lack of female friends and attention is really really depressing me. i try and be optimistic and be extremely out going, but i just cant seem to get past acquaintance and hang out. i dont know how to. Even beyond friendship, I would like to develop a relationship (ive never had a girlfriend or gone on a date) I just feel like they always feel they are better then me. i still have that fat kid confidence .ahhhh

i guess this is kind of off topic, but im not sure where to post =\

Don't give up on the fraternity...if its a good one. I joined one and it was the best decision I made. It was one of my brothers that first introduced me to pick up and gave me the book "The Game". Now I'm the MPUA of the frat (which honestly isn't saying too much!) and I have my bros to thank. Hanging out with them taught me confidence I didn't have before.

I was overweight in highschool too, with few friends. I'm still overweight now..but not so bad. Point is: it does NOT MATTER! I live like a king on campus with a thousand friends, MLTRs, and good grades.

We came from a similar starting place...I was like you my freshman year. What changed? Inner game. I'm a fan of David Deangelo....go get a copy of his inner game series and devour it.

Next: develop status, make people want to be around YOU and your social circles will just form before your eyes.