I knew this girl for like 3 months. At first she was very kind to me and we were all happy hanging out and etc. This girl and I were very flirty and touchy and so over time, I decided to finally ask her out. She rejected me. Strange enough we still hung out afterward and weeks later we kiss and make out etc. So basically I thought the relationship was going uphill. She has a dying relationship with her boyfriend by the way. Then one week she says that I shouldn't come over as much. Then things became stale. She never wanted to do anything with me, everytime I ask her to hang out she says, "I don't know" and if I try to ask why, she gets mad. So basically I knew this wasn't going to work out between us, but she consistently Instant messages me at least 3-4 times a week. If this girl doesn't like me, then why is she bothering me? Should I just ignore her messages, or should I just try to be her friend (I don't want to do). I have no clue right now.

Fuck me, I thought I was in the same situation at one point :S its dreadful, I hate the fact that if she dont want you why does she fuck with your head?

I really hate it, any way hopefully someone will answer your question cause im not sure how to :S

I would say that what I did worked well, i ignored her for about 2 weeks, my life was going great hadnt spoken to the girl for ages, eventually she texts me out the blue :O what you doing blah blah blah

anyway im playing it by ear now seeing how it goes, hope you get this one sorted mate

Totti

I've been in a similar situation before, and talking it over with my PUA mates we came to the conclusion that:

1.) I was "used".
2.) There was some level of attraction.
3.) Not enough comfort.

The "relationship" doesn't really exist, as it exists only on the girl's terms, when she needs an escape from the reality of her bf. Hence she messages, calls, comes over when she feels like it.

I'd advise you becareful of the one-itis trap, and shelve the girl as a "work in progress". I know it's easier said than done, but that's from my experience.

Thanks mokole, so your saying I shouldn't do anything drastic, just go with the flow, be her friend when she needs and that's all?

I'm saying you shouldn't be focusing too much on this girl, and find another target (or targets). Come back later and try again if you *really* want this girl.

Hopefully by then, things would've changed (either you, her or both of you).

A more experienced PUA might be able to tell you how to recover from your situation, but I would rather try again with a fresh target than try to correct numerous mistakes made over months. That's how I saw it in my case.

Good luck, Enthusia!

to throw in my 2 cents into the pot....

this girl had attraction for you, but it wasnt enough to date plus she had a boyfriend.........so thats where you get the making out from.......her attractoin for you was enough for that...but the fact she had a boyfriend and her attraction wasnt at that level to break up with him and go for you....put it to the point of only a make-out session.....

after you made out attraction started to get less and less hence the going down hill to the point she doesnt hang out anymore, but still texts you....well she texts you still cause she is bored and just wants someone to talk to and well my friend your it on that a few times a week occasion.....

best thing you can do forget about her, maybe anwser a text everyonce in awhile instead of everytime...cause right now she is only using you cause she is bored and wants to be entertained.......

so really forget about her.......wait for the boyfriend and her to break up and when they do......call her and ask her to hang out casue you havent in awhile and well then see how things go......

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