So Im new and I will admit that I am shy, I have little to no experience thus I am asking for advice. What im curious about is what i did/didnt do with this one girl in my class. So the story goes...

I normally sit in the same spot everyday before class. On the day of our first test (like the 4th week of class) she showed up and sat down next to me and we kinda chatted. I didnt think much of it, so the days kept going by and she kept on sitting next to me and everyday we would talk a little bit. After a couple of more days I figured she must see something in me and a person i never knew jumped out and asked her if she wanted to go to lunch after class. She said yes and i was extremely surprised and happy. During lunch we talked and we got to know each other. I realized i had to get on the bus so we said bye to each other and i thought things went well. The next week I had the balls to ask her out. She gave me a cute little smile and said she couldnt because she and her friends already had plans but she would like to next week. So to make things not get awkward i kept talking with her. So three weeks went by without her sitting next to me before class and just recently she started sitting near me again but not quite as far...

Now i understand i should have done a number close before leaving, that was my first mistake. But what else should I have done to make the outcome different. Or do i still even have a chance?

u might have a chance but i'm not sure because once u mess up some moment its kinda hard to reframe...now when u say u asked her out what did u exactly say??and when u had lunch did u run game or what?

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You are pussy footing around like an AFC too much. You need to get the alpha male frame into your head and just go up to her and tell her that she should go out with you. It sounds like you have the 'nice guy' mentality in your head where you think that if you are nice to her then she will be nice back and go out with you.

Get your foot in the door of our world. Grab a book or two, The Game is a good starting point because it is a narrative and a really really good read. If you have already, excuse me, but it sounds like you have the mindset of someone who does not truly understand social dynamics. I could tell you a couple things you did wrong, but if you really spend a few hours learning the basics, then you could tell yourself probably dozens of things that you could improve on.

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well you can try this, instead of sitting in your ususal seat move one seat closer to her and pretend to not notice. If she notice you moved then you still have a chance. Then you can run some game on her.

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To be honest, i could remember exactly what I said. And at lunch I didnt do much of a game...i should have though.

I probably dont know much about social dynamics, id admit that. And my friend gave me the Game and ive been reading that but it seems it hasnt helped me to much. I got like halfway through it and i probably need to read more.

See the situation is that im sitting on a bench outside of class before class and im always there before she is so i really cant get closer to her without it being to obivous.

While I agree that you should finish the book that was given to you, and it is also important to read other books such as mystery's book, or a book on body language if you get a chance because you can absorb the dynamics of social interaction like a sponge.

As far as the situation goes if YOU think you still have a chance then you probably do, its all about the internalization of your game. Routines are a good starting point to build a foundation, and they help a lot with overcoming shyness and other social fears. After you start to get a feel for this start to build on that with your own things.

Remember to try not to qualify yourself to her, have her qualifying herself to you because not only is this dhv but it helps establish an important frame of reference for you, and boosts your confidence.

Ill start working on the book again and finish it soon. Ill also try and get a couple of other books as well to try and learn social dynamics.