Hello everyone, I am new to this community and would like some good advice on my situation.
I'm in college over at the UK and ever since school started, I've become intensely attracted to a girl who's in two of my classes. During this semester, I have initiated several conversations with her but they were all limited to topics in class, such as, when's the paper due again? How did you do on that test? And even worse, I made things awkward every time. Another thing is that I think she knows that I am nervous when I talk to her, but at the same time, she hasn't completely shut me out. Let me give you a thorough example,
First time I approached her after class, saying, how's it going, she went on about how the class, yada yada yada, but it was great because she kept asking me questions like, where do you live, what job did you apply for. Then I awkwardly threw in an irrelevant DHV, and unfortunately, it was a complete failure because right afterwards she told me this "Okay… Well I have to go to work." She then turned and left without saying goodbye. As if, she didn't know what to say to it. I felt terrible afterwards, taking it as disinterest, so I didn’t talk to her for an entire week. And during that week in class, I sat on the different side of the room, and did not look at her whatsoever.
My next approach was two weeks after that incident. As she was leaving, I stopped her saying "how have you been?" She then expressed that she didn't want to have to study for the next test. Then she walked out of the door, without reciprocating (i.e. and you?) And she immediately started talking to some AFC, but then I butted in, joined the conversation, and expressed interested In the AFC, ignoring her. Then I said this "So where you guys heading?" but directed it towards the AFC, she told me she's going to her dorm room anyway, but this time, I left without saying goodbye, because I was going to a different location, And successfully got the AFC off of her. Perhaps this conveyed that I was not interested in her, rather the AFC.
So during class the next day, I was talking to my friend conveying that I was a sociable guy, and in the corner of my eye, I realized that she was staring at me. I suppose this was an IOI.
The bottom line is, this girl is an HB8, yet a shy one, and during class, I believe I am the only one to have approached her, other guys haven't noticed her. I know two things for sure about this girl, she does not really have guy friends, and she isn't into partying and I interpret as my advantage.
I think I've finally found somebody I genuinely want to pursue a relationship with, and I want to break it to this girl that I am interested in her, and ultimately become her bf. I was thinking I could ask her to help me study in the library. Any advice on my situation?

You need to open up the conversation more to more flirty and sexual topics. If you notice her staring at you walk up to her and tell her what color your underwear is, this should open up the chit chat to more sexual and flirty topics. Other than that you just need to number close and take her out somewhere not too intimate but not too rowdy either.

What do you guys think about this Tomorow I'll just be like, "hey, I'm struggling with this hw (due end of week), wondering if you could help me with it, say, 4 oclock in the library today?

And what if she says no? Forget about her?

Tell her what color? what? " Oh and by the way, Im wearing black underwear... I noticed you were underdressing me with your eyes. " Thats a joke. lol I dont think I'd ever say that

It would get a laugh! lol always good.

Your plan seems alright but it puts the ball in her court and gives her complete control. If your not confident shes going to say yes than i wouldn't use it.

let me answer to your problem with a statement from "The Game" that has helped me tremendously. "Act as if your the prize. Or possibly the quote from Boiler Room "Act as if... act as if you are the fucking president...act as if you got a 9 inch cock"

the point of all that is to say when talking to her, shut out the nervousness and be a little cocky (not to much though), cuz then you sound confident. for the most part girls love confidence. make it so it sounds like she is having to ask thngs of YOU and you are giving up YOUR time to talk to her. i would say throw in time constraints as often as possible, or maybe mention stories from various parties...

i dont know the whole situation, but i personally would hold off on asking her to go anywhere at least until you are pretty good friends. then once you go to the library, go to get somethin to eat, go watch a movie....ect....

hope it works out for ya. good luck man

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Ok mann ur openings are okay u don't really have to do much since u guys conversant any way so do ur opening give ur time constraint and DHV with a funny joke or something u do or exaggerate somethin lol

then get her to qualify to u by saying: Do you know what the leading cause of break-ups is – Relationships he, he. A relationship is a romantic or sexual connection between two people. Take her hand and stare into her eyes…do you feel that? – we’re breaking up then – throw her hand away. ( you see how your conveying ur sexual but not needy and u have interest in her and u have kino and so much more this is why these lines r perfect)

finally number close her let her know ur going to do something on what ever date and that she is more than welcome to come or if u can try to bounce her to location right then and there and bam ur already building rapport

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Hey guys, thanks for the responses, I will have to gain a lot of courage to do this... Man, its so much easier to talk to girls that I don't have this much interest in because I'm way too worried I'm going to mess it all up.

About the comments above, I think I agree, I should keep it cool for now, for I don't want to blow my chances with her. So I'll just keep everything casual for now and in about a week I will turn the subjects of conversation to something sexual, like I will do some light kino, holding her hand, guessing a number. then making her spin. IF she complies, I will invite her to do something with me. (on campus--non threatening) or perhaps coffee.

You seem to be progressing okay.
What books do you have?
I would say though, your cool but she's busy! Why she should have coffe with you?
Remember, chick crack! Invite her clothes shopping.
*Take tic tacs and gum*
Neg her WHEN YOUR OUT "omg your nose wiggles when you laugh" (classic neg). Laugh again! (Compliance test).

Try the ESP Gambit if things go well:
ESP Gambit:
Number between 1 and 5
Beautys common gambit
Number between 1 and 10
What do you want to be when you grow up?
7
MULTITHREADING and she qualifies herself

For kino, make sure you calibrate to see if she is comfortable with it. Light touches to the arm, thumb wrestling to start with.
Then put her arm in yours. If she complies, give her an ioi (good girl) and bounce her somewhere else (fast food restaurant or something).
Get her really comfortable, then try the tic tac kiss close:
Tic-tac kiss close. Put a tic tac in her mouth. Leave your finger in and make her suck it. Then say, "I'm an Indian giver. I want it back!"
Then push her off you, as if she is the one escalating on you!

Oh, and good luck and have fun!

i was in a similar situation not to long ago, you should let her know your intrested in her, before she takes it as your just friendly. This is my method, that ive been using on complete strangers however you can apply it to this situation

fluff before class, then write a note in class saying "your cute" "i think i have a crush on you." then some random thing to do like "coffee after class" this has worked. when ive done this ive gotten a guarenteed response wheather it be from her. Once i got a girls boyfriend calling me up flipping out too. The hardest part is giving the note, on strangers i generally say i think you dropped this. or i believe this is yours, or i have something for you.

haha jazzy i just printed off that reply. that is the best short summary i think i have seen yet

talent man

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i actually progressed with this girl. We went out a couple of times already. I was hesitant to make any risks. For example, kissing.

Fearing that i was being seen as a friend, i told her that I thought those couple of times were dates. She replied by saying she thought they were just hanging out.

so wtf does this mean? I mean, it seems like this could mean she just wants to be friends, or it could mean that she needs more time.
This was a pretty amateur move, I know. Spare me.

Read this
this-is-how-to-get-out-the-friend-zone-vt31341.html
did it hit home?

You're not willing to take risk that is why you won't succeed right now you're stuck in an endless loop of wondering, "why?". I think you may have already blown it with this girl

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Well I took a look at that article, and I see why you linked it, because it does relate to my situation. However, I was the one who was willing to take the risk. The risk first was, asking her out. Then after the second date, telling her I think we should hang out again. Thirdly, I took the risk in telling her that I considered those two times we had together as date, not just hanging out. And let me make it clear that the reason why I said those two dates were dates was solely because I didn’t want her to mistake me as someone who’s just trying to be friends even though I honestly didn’t think they were dates.

The way she reacted to that statement was like a snap of the fingers, immediate shield, immediate ASD.

What I am saying is that although that question revealed information, it was not necessary to even say. I rushed things, which made me sound both needy and incongruent. I should have let things flow naturally by communicating sexual interest non verbally. Before you jump to respond, here me out on what’s below.

List of things I have recognized
<li> She has more guy friends than girl friends, and so it’s understandable that she thought it was just hanging out. </li>

<li> She responds better when we are in a more private location. She almost avoids talking to me in public. (This doesn’t mean she is afraid to be seen with me.) She just wants to have her privacy protected. </li>

<li> I have been thinking more, and I realized that the problem with the past two dates was the fact that it was limited to 1 hour DURING THE WEEK. </li>

<li> Unfortunately, she’s a very busy girl, and really doesn't have much time to hangout, and I know this for a fact because I saw her schedule. (It’s not a bullshit excuse). </li>

<li> She is not outgoing, and rarely talks to people she doesn’t know. </li>

<li> She has never been in a sexual relationship, nor has she had many boyfriends. </li>

<li> All in all, we’ve only hung out say about 3 hours. It’s just been divided over many days. </li>

<li> I feel strongly that going for a kiss on those two dates was very inappropriate. Moreover, I wasn't feeling ready to kiss either. </li>

What I have concluded
If I want to do anything that involves intimacy with this girl, I should make sure that I have at least 3-4 hours during the Weekend. Don't you guys agree?

So I am not going to give up on this girl, and my next move is I am going to ask if she wants to ‘hang out’ this weekend.

Question
The real question is how do I convey romantic interest considering this girl’s circumstances? I understand the concept of Kino, but I don’t understand working with inexperienced women.

I give up whats the point you clearly learned nothing from my post

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well your mostly right, because I think that yes, I have already blown it with her as far as being more than friends goes. But actually I am happy to be just friend with her at this point. For the next woman, I will be clearer from the beginning.