So I met this girl two weeks back. I have only hung out with her a few times, but she seems pretty cool. I recently asked her if she wanted to hag out and grab some coffee this weekend (did this online, since I dont see her around very often). She replied with
"heyy, unfortunately I've put off studying until tomorrow so it looks like I wont have time to chill maybe some other time =)"

Any clues as to what that might mean and maybe how I could respond?? Thanks!

Well she has to study... it doesn't sound like rejection to me.

Ah thats nothing, you know rejection when it slaps you in the face and kicks you in the nuts.

This is rejection
'i just want him to get the hell away from me'

'but were just friends'

* when they laugh in your face or talk to you like a piece of shit.

(hey it happens)


Next time you ask here out pick up the phone.

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I would suggest that you keep trying, but don't get so hung up on this girl that you develop oneitis. In fact I would suggest that if you are able to, go and find a hotter looking girl to hang out with and let the jelousy thing play it's game, because if she were to see you with another girl that is better looking and more fun to be around with, then her feelings of insecurity, jelousy, and inferiority will tend to kick in within her and she is more than likely going to want to chase you down if she thinks that you are really that great of a catch that other girls want you.

It's all one gigantic psychological game of chess and it is up to you to prove to her that you are the better catch and that it is her loss if she is not interested and you do that by staying busy, continuing to work on yourself and by going out with other girls. If she is interested in you then she will come around. If she is not interested, then that is her problem.

Do yourself a favor and don't lower your standards for her or for any other woman. Make them come to you instead by being as interesting and fun to be around that you can make yourself.


I hope that makes sense to you.

yea mann u didn't get rejected just remain calm and try again like in a few for sure u could get it to happen.....

o yea dude above me gave good advice

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I'm glad that I was able to help you out a bit. I may not know everything, but at least I try to stay ahead of the game and to not lower my standards.

I guess that you could say that I have learned quite a lot by studying both my past and all of my interactions with women, but unfortunately even in my own game I still make mistakes and I think that is true for most of us in the game as it is a constant learning experience and I think that masters like Sinn, Mystery, Ross, and David D would all agree with me on that one.


Have fun and happy sarging.



Robert.

i say this is a case of bad timing.You Should of offer to help her "Study" cause then you'll get to hang out and she'll get to "study" . Take her to a coffee house or sometime. Do Some DHV and i bet she'll be into you more. I use live near UCLA in Westwood and this one girl use to give me the "i have to study line" and i'll always reply " well i got some books i need to read so how about we meet at Starbucks on blah blah street." try it out and let me know how it goes for you.

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I dont mean to put a negative spin on things,
But if she's interested she'll agree next time or go out of her way to contact you, but if not just forget about her and next.
Im not sure how often girls use 'i have to study' as a blow off, but it must be common as i've heard it once before, and then i see the girl the same night with another lad, clearly not studying.
Next time you see her try to create more attraction, then give her one last chance.

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I'm just gonna throw it out there but are you the type of guy that over analysis?

It can be a complete mind f*ck to ya, turning trivial matters into a volcanic erruption in your brain!

All i can say is try not to think the worst, atleast wait a couple of days before you call again. I'm sure its safe to say we all dont want to see you reflect an image of neediness.

There is some great advice in the previous posts especially what Rdonovan1 suggest... go find a hotter girl to hang out with!!