Hiya!

So, here's the deal:

Every year I work abroad the whole summer. Two years ago I met this really nice girl who worked with me for a couple of weeks. Sadly, she had a BF at that time (LTR). I was kinda infatuated with her, AFC style being nice and all but we also had a lot of fun and I'm pretty sure she dug me. However, I needed to go home and that was that.

Last summer however, she was there again. And I started to like her again. A lot. Since I already knew her from last year I was way more confident around her. And I had the benefit of knowing a (tiny) bit more of the theory of attraction. We spent a whole lot amount of time together, although she still had the same BF as last year.

I got her to jump in the sea with me in the middle of the night and crash at our workplace after a night of clubbing when we had to work the next morning for example. We even walked on the beach together and stuff...

I was still too much of a Nice Guy to actually try something like kissing her then (I didn't want to be that guy, not when she still had a BF), but I still tried my game on her in the hope that she would take the initiative. I got very confused... Did I really see some IOI's there, or did I enter the Dreaded Zone? Isn't it funny how actually liking a girl you are trying to hit on can cloud your judgment that much... *sigh*

Nothing happened between us during my stay there. We stayed in contact (email, text messages) though, and after 2 weeks she mailed me that she split up with her BF (you were seeing the guy for 4 fucking years and you couldn't have done that 3 weeks earlier?!). I'd still like to think that I played a part in that though.

Anyway, after some banter over the email I was like, you should come over to Holland. And she said yes. And she booked her flight. And now she's going to stay at my place for 3 nights. And this time I *have* to make a move.

Now, after this TL;DR post (you know, it actually feels good to write this shit down!), here are some issues I need to consider:

* She knows I liked her, but we haven't really talked about that.

* We haven't seen each other for 3 months. I reckon that I need to reframe from any "friend" frame there still might be to a "I like you" frame

* Use any opportunity I get from now on practicing how to attract women in general, just to be 'in shape' when she gets here.

* Make sure I take it easy and don't scare her when she arrives. Any tips on how to use email/text messages to 'prepare' her a bit?

* Make sure I use Kino at the earliest moment when appropriate or lay off Kino to gauge her reaction?

* Start off at the same level of flirting as when I left Scotland or tone it down a notch (because she might not expect that).

So, any pointers or advice would be greatly appreciated!


-McFly

if she knows you liked her why do you need to talk about it? don't bring it up, let your actions do the talking. i agree that you need to practice as much as possible, it can never hurt you, it will only help. i would use a lot of kino. if she is coming all the way out to see you, she has basically said, "yes i want you!" don't tone down your flirting and such; her last memories of you come from the last time you were together, pick up where you left off. and lastly work for the close.

just my opinions.

Yeah if she's coming out to see you, that means she probably is into you, so I would recommend kino. When you do it, let that be your gauge whether or not you want to escalate things. You'll be able to tell a lot from her responsiveness to kino.

Best of luck mate,

JB

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Man, don't start thinking you already won her...
Stick to the game...
I think it is better to try and create sexual tension, through negs, DHV, and kino, than to try talking to her about it.
Remember, u can't talk her into liking you... u have to seduce her.