Hi Guys

First I want to say TANKS, and that you are doing a great job,and you really helped me a lot.

A little background: I met this girl last week. Everything worked like in the "book". We made up the same night. 3 day after that, she came over to my place and we had sex (I'm writing only the highlights).
I talked to her on the phone once, and text her few times (Kokky fony stuf).
I got this mail from her today:

"I'm writing this because I prefer the written word so I don't forget to say any thing that I intended to say. I want to be honest with you because I really like you and I don't want you to get the wrong idea. I feel like everything is happening too fast and I think that we want different things. You are a very sweet, fun and intelligent man and I liked hanging out with you. But we only met two times and all ready it feels like you have some expectations on me.

I have been single for a long time and therefor I'm very slow when it comes to relationships nowadays. I want to be honest with you because I don't want to lead you on or just wait some time until it's to late. I really like you as a person, but I have to say that I'm not looking for a relationship. I'm so busy with school and work so I feel like I would only disappoint you all the time because I don't have much spare time. I would like to be you friend, because I think we can have fun together. But friendship is the only thing I can offer and I really hope you will accept that offer!

Now, you know how I feel and it is up to you to decide if you want to be my friend or if you feel that it's a waste of time."

I don't know what to do, if I can do anything. I really really like this girl. It looks like I will have to work really hard (which I don'y know yet, what to do) to make her fall in love at me.

Last e-mail I got from her, it was last week. She asked me what I'm doing this weekend. I told her that I'm planning to stay at home, but if she wants she can come over and watch a movie with me.

Since then, I didn't hear anything from her. I tried to call her yesterday and today but nothing. I know she is working really hard, and studying at the same time time, I hope that's why she didn't call back.

I will appreciate your response to my problem. I was really afraid that this will happen.

Best regards.

Alright bro, here it is.

She knows you are waaaaaay more into than she is you. She can tell you want to make her your gf when all she wanted was to have fund and get some action. You probably came off to clingy and needy. Do not call/text/email for a while. At least a week or so. Let her be the one to contact you.

Stay busy, go work out non stop, meet other girls, do whatever you can to get your mind off of this one. It will be much better for your mental if you can go out and meet other girls. Understand this one let you stick your dick in her, there are several others out there that are willing to do the same. Take her off this little pedestal you put her on, and understand she is just another girl. There are billions of others out there.

If this happens again where a girl says she just wants to be friend use this line.

Credit: Ace_of_Spades.

It shows confidence and that you are not going to give into her frame.

Good luck bro.

CK

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Hi Man,

You are write. It's really funny. I have just got an SMS from her. She is saying that she is at work now, and she will call me tomorrow. I bet she will not. But who know.....

Next time, after having sex with a girl, I think I will wait like a week, before contacting the girl. I have to train this. I'm really good at the beginning, but after having sex, i'm losing it (She was the HOTTEST girl I have ever dated, and she is very HOT).

I guess I'm not the only one who fall at this part!

Thanks a lot for the help.

Keep a positive attitude. Don't worry about it if she calls or doesn't. If she doesn't she really isn't worth your time. You are too caught up on her looks. Looks are important, but its not the only thing.

You don't need to to go from one extreme to another. You just have to work on controlling your emotions better. If she is into you, you will shortly know. It is going to be hard though. You have to lay low for a bit. If she calls or texts do not answer right away. Wait a bit, then call/text back. Just show that you are a busy man who doesn't have time for her games.

CK

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WHOA man - u're right - fuk keep approachin keep livin the PUA WAY! I had somewhat similar story but readin this here just confirms and totally cleared my head - PUA PUA PUA fo lyfe! I'm super sargin 2nyt fo'sho again with my buddy. SERIOUSLY thanks for sharin.

What we have to understand here everyone is if it wasn't for PUA - this shit wouldn't be happening - at least not as fast and as precisely as we want it to. Always be in the PUA, alpha male mindset unless u got your money and goals right and actually have 'TIME' to offer someone that you want to - I think . . .

I'll add my story anyways below - n feel free to give your responses:

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Okay this is kind of confusin . . . but I'll try

I think in my last (First post) I mentioned that I'm luvin PUA and still do - but I discovered something about myself which I'm not cool wit at all - as I mentioned in my last post - I was coming off a relationship - And was havin the time of my life approachin random girls and getting there numbers - after about 20 25 numbers and possibly 30 approaches - finally got some time to hang out with this gorgeous (8) chick that I picked up as I was leaving for work from home. I got her number and facebook or what not and finally arranged a 'date' or whatever u wanna call it. I like to call it a hook up or whatever. Now long story short, she came over, I gave her a massage and f-closed it - it felt great - I was like if it wasn't for PUA (and my PUA guy that I hang out wit) this would have taken at least a year after my break up (With PUA only 3 months) - however, here in lies a dilemma - I really really like this girl and we have WAY to much in common - WAY WAY WAY too much - however, I don't want to see her cuz I'm afraid I'll get to attached or chody - PUA makes u a man Id like to think and how shit should be done when it comes to girls - but I'm not an asshole and if I can relate to someone on many levels than I want to be in touch - BUT u gotta help yourself first as they say to help anybody else - I think it's still too early for me as a PUA and I really need to get this mind set going (make it part of who I am completely) but u know what I'm sayin - I dunno - I love PUA but I ain't hurtin ppl - especially ppl that I like and myself - I dunno . . . As I write this, I feel like I should think about shit through the PUA way - after all I was more productive at work and everything else - now I just have this chick in my head - I need help from my PUA bros to clear this shit out. My PUA guy told me it's all about what u want? I wanted a network of friends with benefits and this one is a shoe in BUT I can't get attached to ppl like this - I appreciate the fact that I ran into someone that amazing (law of attraction fo'sho) but too much on my plate u know (Goals and shit) - that need to be accomplished.

Sorry for the 'confusion' but that how my mental state is - However, tonight I'm going super SARGIN cuz I don't want to think about her.

Love to hear responses from PPL who are more experienced and have somewhat crossed over this 'threshold' I guess and experienced life beyond this 'attachment' shit. Coming from different relationships - they get really borin - don't want this one too though

PS: Her Pussy was TIIIIIIIGHT oh my god - fukin gorgeous everything - but its her personality and story that got me attached.

PUA NOTES: The initial approach and pick up was beautiful - text game - beautiful - waiting and not caring beautiful - If this pick up and f-close was video taped - I probably would have got a 8/10 or something

Dammm... you are so right, and it's pisses me
I know, I need to learn how to control my emotions. It's just a meter of time.

Thanks a lot.

The most important thing to do is not to let this affect you negatively. You need to see this in a different way, not as a set back but in a good way. You have learned enough to have sex with a girl far hotter than you ever thought you could possibly get. Enjoy it! Celebrate it! You have done very good and have come very far! Don't diminish your success by how it turned out in the end. Just realize that you are still learning, but you are making awesome progress. Although you have not pefected your game, you are worlds farther than when you started. Learn from what you did wrong and focus on the ways to correct them. But for the love of God, feel good about what you have done, your on the way to a new happier more fufilled you.

P.S Most of what I said are also NLP frame control techniques used to help people stay motived toward their goals. NLP might help you control your emotions.