So I am a sophomore in college, and I am living in the dorms for the second year. I recently met this girl who just kind of randomly walked into my room and started talking to me. She is pretty attractive and we also have a lot in common. There was a point where she mentioned she was "kind of seeing somebody." But As far as I am concerned, that means she isn't too committed.

So, I became "facebook friends" with here, and sent her a message a few days later suggesting she show me where some good food is in Ann Arbor (where I go to school). I did this because she said she grew up here. She sent me a message back saying that she didn't want to be presumptuous, but she is seeing somebody, but she would still like to go out sometime.

I responded with a message that started "Hey, I just asked to go get some food, not sleep with you." Then I kind of made it sound like I wasn't interested in her, but told here that nevertheless she needs to take me out to get some good food.

She responded that she knew the best places and asked what kind of food i liked. I just told her I wasn't picky, I like nice restaraunts and dives the same, so i would just put my trust in here.

So that's where it stands now.

What I am curious is, when we do go out for dinner. How should I act? I really am interested in this girl, and I would like to hook up with her. But she also seems very cool and interesting and a possible candidate for a relationship (even though i said I wasn't too interested in dating right now, could have been a mistake, but i needed an in). Any advice on the next step is much appreciated!

~Rosewood

From one michigan resident to another
ill try and be bluntly honest with you


i think you kind of already fucked up, gettting to know her good, and you asked her to show you around good...
but she asked your opinion and you acted lke a pussy saying its allllll up to you???....yeah you need to start talking the lead and calling the shots, plus hanging with her now while she is kind of seeing somone may damper your chances for daintg...less she is a cheater....
but if you do start acting alpha you can get her attractoin up and get her interested and when she breaks up or isnt seeing htis guy you can hook up then

and i dont want to read to much into it but sometimes girls say they are seeing someone cause there not interested in you and they want you to back off......

but we'll assume thats not the case.......

so im gonna sum up what you should do on your little date pretty quick

act alpha, and not puss...you need to take the lead, be a man, confident, fun, tease her whatever else you can think of to create attraction.....

the whole you pick what we do that read like a book im a pussy....


so figure out what is alpha and start being that

RIGHT NOW!!!!!

any questions???

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The only thing is, I feel unsure that she is going to respond the same as the average girl. This isn't your typical female, she likes indy music, smokes pot, not very into herself. Just trying to provide you guys with a little more info.

basically what your saing is the whole situation i gave you feel unsure of just might not work cause of her personality


well be confident, good conversatoin, fun to be around if you think she will react in a bad way to teasing then dont do it......


but i have to ask is this type of girl what you want?????

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Im sure you can get with her and as far as i can see you havent done all that bad. The fact that you left the food up to her isnt an issue, your in a place you dont know its expected that you'd leave it up to her.

Its fine get her high and just chill lol, you'll get some if you get into a good comfort zone with her. Stoners are fucking awsome lol, soo much fun to be around even if you don't get into a relationship you'll still have a blast.

Alright, so a little update, I told her I need a steak, she responded by telling me she knows a good place, not a cheap place though.

I am not quite sure how to respond to that, but I know for sure I need to be a little more alpha, so I feel like ending this little online messaging thing we have going, and just knocking on her door and talk to her in person (She does live in the same dorm as me).

I mean, I can afford an expensive dinner, but I guess i am just a little lost with where to go from here. Should I offer to pay? I am not sure if it is worth it to do so or not. I feel like I already negged her a bit with the "I didnt ask to sleep with you, just get some food" line, and I don't want to push it, so advice is appreciated.

I love you <3 no seriously, I almost didnt read all that cuz it was soo long but im sooooo glad I did.

score some pot....break it out on your 'date' lol i just miss pot (sober 2 years now)


whatever restraunt she takes you to, turn it down, no matter how good it

looks. that way she will always be trying to earn your approval. (p.s. I

suck at this i want nothing more than the girl to make the decisions on a

date, so i usually just let her make em and then complain about them

later. but I wouldnt suggest that I dont know you, i know how to keep

things under control.)



you just gotta be a fuckin rockstar on this date maaaannn. thats all i'm

ganna say. but fuck, man i've been on that road before, its a road paved

with disappointment so keep your expectations low.

hey man i can feel you..
one idea ive got for you is: instead of going out and having dinner in that expensive place you mentioned, why dont you ask her what kind of food she likes and find some place nearby and order some for pickup and invite her over your dorm to have dinner with you..
it will give you more chances that night with her, you will be alone with her, and you wont have to spend too much money going to an expensive place.