(This could get kind of long, but there's also a lot to learn from this for people who are new to the game and are just working on breaking out of their shells).

There's this tall half-asian girl from my language class who's very smart, very nice, and very good looking. She was in my class last semester too, so it might be a disadvantage to me that she's known me for awhile already. But over the summer I've learned some game and decided to start applying it. She's 19 and I'm 20.

Anyway, I saw her at the book store on campus with this other girl who had spotted me in her English class. So she introduced us, and when I shook her hand I twirled her around. So the HB10 I'm talking about (I'll refer to her as HBA) said "He never does that to me." Then we're talking a bit, then they start talking to each other about food and nutrition (she works out and takes great care of herself), so I say "this is what I like about HBA" and start slapping the side of her upper arm, and say "look it ripples."

Then I walked off towards our classroom and talked to another girl I knew who was hanging out right outside. During the conversation HBA comes up and sits down nearby to read. When the other girl leaves, I go to sit down next to HBA and she makes some comment about me being "more fiesty" or "making more jokes" this semester. I was like "oh, you mean this?" I do the thing with her arm again and say "I like it, it sounds really meaty" and she looks at me and says "Thanks!" very sarcastically (it's funny because her body is pretty much all perfect). Then she starts slapping my arm while commenting about how skinny I am, and then one of my other acquaintances conveniently shows up just then to say whats up. I'm like "nothing much, just getting beat up." Then I talk to him for awhile, freezing her out and such till he leaves. She was eating a bag of M&Ms and talks about how she needs to stop eating them, and I said "aww, but then I wouldn't be able to do this anymore" and did the slap thing again. She gave me the rest of the M&Ms and then we went to class.

A few days later she called me up saying that she had lost some pages from her workbook and wanted to know if I could help her out by letting her borrow the book so she can Kinkos the pages. I forget what we said exactly, but we settled on the plan to go to Kinkos together. But first we had to go to my house to get my workbook, so we convoyed there (I drove ahead while doing weird stuff with my turn signal lights to be funny). When we got there, we went into my room and I picked up my guitar, plugged it in and started jamming away (strangely, she is the only girl who has ever seen me play guitar and not commented on how great I was). She said "Can I have a look around your room?" and I said "yeah, sure." She just walked through and into my closet and then back out (pretty weird, I really don't know why she did that. But in retrospect, I probably should have said "No, you can't" or "don't touch the skeletons" if she goes into my closet"). She wanted to play with my other guitar but it was left handed, so I told her she should go into my brother's room to get his right handed guitar. She came back with that one and plugged it into my other amp and played it a bit. She really sucked, so I turned off her distortion and said "man that sounds way better."

Anyway, we took her car to Kinkos after that and made 2 copies of each of the workbook pages we needed (she paid for mine too, nice girl). She made me hold her purse + keys while she was using the machine, so I quickly thought "uh oh, how can I not make this AFC?" Well, I just opened her purse and started looking through it while commenting on the cards and other things in it and she was like "hey! if you find something there you dont like, dont blame me." My C&F seemed to be working well so far.

After that I convinced her to go to this burrito place with me in the same mall. While we were walking there, I noticed she was walking on the outside of the sidewalk and commented on it, saying "You are being very chivalrous, by the way." She said "You're right, paying for your copies and giving you a ride too." She paused, and HERE CAME THE SHIT TEST!

"But don't expect anything more" she said. But I was ready:
"Oh I'd expect WAY more gifts and money being spent on me before I put out for YOU." Then she kinda laughed (trying not to) and said "I'm not hoping for you to put out." I didn't say anything to that, I just ignored it. Not sure what else I shoulda done.

When we got to the burrito place, she asked if we could go to the sushi place next to it instead, but I just said "nah, that place looks like bad news. I'd rather have a burrito."

While we're eating, she gets serious and asks me if I still have my girlfriend (I guess she overheard some conversation of mine last semester). I just said "No. Do you still have your boyfriend?" (I know, I probably could have said something better, but I wasn't sure what). She also says no. She asks me when I broke up with her and why; I said about 2 months ago, and that it was very complicated, there were many reasons. Then she starts asking me lots of questions about my Tourettes syndrome, how it effects me and how I deal with it. I told her that if I didn't have it, I wouldn't be the same person, and I wouldn't be as good at music or the other things I do. I told her that when you play the blues, you can't just play it, you have to LIVE it.

Then I suggested that she write me a poem to try and impress me, and she said "I'll do one right now." Then she improvised a nice poem about me right infront of me and it was very great and thoughtful. At the end I said "wow, that was great, you should write that down and put it on your Facebook" (Looking back, I think it might have been better for me to say something like "Well I must say, out of all the poems that girls have written for me, that one ranks in the top 10" [DD style] or "Wow, that was beautiful. Where have you been all my life?" [Juggler style].)

On our way back, we were talking about music and how she wants to pick up the violin, and I told her a bit about a music store near my house and she says "Can we go there?" and I say sure. So we get there and she gets a violin to try out while I browse through some sheet music. Then I go into the practice room with her and we take turns playing it together, and I show her some stuff while taking her hands and guiding them (kino). Then we're done, so I buy a tin whistle and we leave. I play the whistle a bit while we're in the car and we have a good laugh about it together, then she drops me off and says "I must say, that violin excursion would have to be the most fun thing I've done in awhile."

So guys, how'd I do so far?

Forget it. I just sent her 2 flirtatious text messages a few minutes and she just called me to ask what that was for, and told me that she wasn't interested in me in that way. I tried to save myself real quick by saying "that's ok because I'm not really interested in you that way either, you aren't my type and you're too young for me."

What could I have done wrong that put me in the LJBF land? Was it just because she'd known me too long before I started flirting with her?

sending these messages? and maybe you were already a bit too much flirtatious before. all you want to do is build attraction but make sure that she knows you do not care if she likes you or not. it also seems to me that you were doing slightly too much fun. it is not your task to entertain her, but keeping her interested and on her toes. ignore her for some time, find other girls to hang out with, jealousy is the best aphrodisiac i know. right now she might also get the idea that she is something special for you, she knows she is hot and she might expect you to try things on her. but once she notices that there are other girls around this picture gets faint. btw. it is not all about c+f, it is also to show that you follow your path, that you have boundaries and that you are able to protect them. avoid goofy stuff as much as you can but project that you are a calm, confident man who messes around with people when he is in the mood, but generally doesnt give a shit. more or less. just my2c.

The messages were "Hey, stop!" then when she replied with "stop what?" I said "Thinking about me and smiling so much." After that she called me to ask if I was flirting with her, being cute or just playing around, and after I told her it was all of the above she told me that even though she has flirted back with me before just for fun, she isn't really interested in me in that way, and just wants to make sure I know that so I don't get hurt later. I had never tried to entertain her, in fact most of the time I just teased on her, busted on her and negged her. I never got needy or ass kissy to her for even a minute. And in class I often ignored her and gave off the vibe that I was more interested in the class than her. I made her laugh a whole bunch and she frequently complimented me on things such as how confident I was, and I think I did a good job of acting as if they didn't mean anything to me.

I think what I fucked up is that I didn't continue to escalate soon enough. I forgot to mention, that outing report was from a few weeks ago. I DID invite her to something that weekend but she was busy. From then on, there was no kino between us and very little flirting, just seeing each other twice a week in class and complaining about how much we hated it. I did make fun of her for being late all the time and being clumsy, but I guess that wasn't enough and the sexual energy kinda died down. And lately instead she's had this construction worker guy following her around, who is kinda good at C&F minus the F. I guess she's just really into him.

Am I right?