PUA's have an amazing skill at gaining anyone's acceptance within the first few minutes of meeting them. Though after having a lunch date with an HB9 today, she told our mutual friend that she saw me as nothing more than a friend. Now I don't really care, because since studying PUA material I've eliminated my constant oneitus with girls because I know that being a PUA means having options. I don't make girls my priority care in life if I know they aren't interested. Anyways, truth being after having our lunch date, I didn't really feel any chemistry towards her either. I felt we'd be good friends but I just wasn't feeling that we'd ever actually hook up.

Now my question for you guys is, do PUA's create a false sense of chemistry or do the successful sarges always come from natural chemistry? Because I'll be honest, whether a sarge is going good or not, sometimes I just don't feel that we'd work out, and then I become less interested to be interesting with her. Thoughts?

Ok, what I do when I identify a set. I go in, I do not check the level of the girls before (not always). When I am in the set I decide whos gonna be my target. While I ground my opener I neg the target and decide if she is good enough for me. (Would I do her or not?) If not, she is not gonna be more attractive to me later on either since my perception of attractiveness is based on looks. And I eject.
If she meets my standards I go for it.
As for the real chemistry... Mine is based on apperance and if she is boring or not. Thats it. Her is based on how well I DHV. Thats it for her.

Unless you are talking about a real relationship. Then you need security, comfort, attraction and the feeling of being alive.

Typical AFC situation, and also where I've been many many times. Even if you're having an awesome conversation and you're laughing like hell, you will still be in the friend zone forever if you dont gain ATTRACTION!

You have comfort obviously, but its easy, in my experience, to gain too much comfort which kills the tension between you.

Attraction is gained through a lot of stuff, but here's some examples:
- Kino (touching her, starting with "friendly zones" then escalating to "more than friend zones").
- Looks (keeping eye contact a little bit too long, I count 3+ second looks from HB's as IOI's.)
- Preselection and social value (Having HB's around you, and also a lot of friends, this shows that a lot of people like you. The HB's are most important, beacuse when she see's that girls want you, you become more attractive in her eyes.)

Looking back on what I did wrong, I'd say it was a high combination of spitting out too much C&F, not captivating her attention through more interesting questions, and the conversation we carried throughout the date didn't set much sexual tension. Though I did present a lot of kino, but I guess it just wasn't enough.

Now my question for you guys is, do PUA's create a false sense of chemistry or do the successful sarges always come from natural chemistry? Because I'll be honest, whether a sarge is going good or not, sometimes I just don't feel that we'd work out, and then I become less interested to be interesting with her. Thoughts?


you anwsered yoru own question......and im sure some guys do but really what your doing by creating false chemistry is lieing to yourself and if you dont feel chemistry for the girl and dont want to hook up with her, or be with her then why bother you know?

plus ya your lack of interest in her is gonna damper yoru effects of gaming her......its like say you hated soccer, but in gym class you have to play it......would you give it your all or just play half assed?

and say you love baseball and in gym you play it would you play it half assed or love to play the game?..

same concept so when your hanging with a girl you dont like i wouldnt bother with her but instead make her a friend, like your already doing..
any pua who creates a false chemistry is just wasting his own time when he could be hooking up with someone he actually wants to be hooking up with

questions?

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