Sorry for the long post.

Hey whats up! I've been looking around the board but never posted, I haven't found any solid info about dating or asking co-workers out, hope this is the right section. Not really new to Pick Up, but usually have a "do not date co-workers rule" and was thinking of breaking it.

Problem A....

There are some good looking girls where I work, at a restaurant by the way, but there is a girl that was just hired and has just recently moved from dayton OH to Columbus, and has been here about a month, already asked her if she new anyone and she said no. But the first question was if I ask her out and it doesn't work would it be uncomfortable or (aquard) sp? to ask the other girls out?

Problem B.....

What are the rules of fraternizing with co-workers b/c I don't want it to be uncomfortable between us b/c I need money while I go through school so I can't afford to be fired. So if there is a subtle way to ask please let my know b/c I am usually a direct person.

Background Info

I am mostly a direct person, like I said before, with a little cocky funny added in (natually sarcastic). I don't play games or start with opinion openers and am not shy, but certain situations I get confused.

I was thinking about using the 5 question game on her to get her to go to starbucks and once there do the cube on her and later ask her to go out to eat when we are not in uniform. I understand that there are many women out there and I am very social so I am not worried about losing her. So any advice is welcome or a confirmation on my plan of action is welcome.

When I go out to eat, usually at The Cheesecake Factory, I make a point to talk to everyone, employees, patrons that sit at the bar, and the bartenders, which I know all of them and have most of their numbers, and have never been turned down for a conversation.

Hope I haven't been ramballing too much but being the first post I wanted to introduce myself and explain my background in the pua community. If anyone on here is in the Columbus, OH area we should meet up and go out some time.

Thanks for your time, and a quick response it welcome b/c I am seeing her at work tomorrow (today) Sept. 21st.

well, i have the same issue

i have like 6 HB8-10 in my office and i'm teasing all of them... i know that at least 3 of them are falling for my stuff and the other ones i didn't have the chance to escalate yet, but i think that the best thing to do is to try the material, get them very attracted and then getting them off the work place... like finding something that they like to do and someday u say...

"look, next week i'm going to do this and as you told me that you like it the other day, i thought that you might be interested, so you can come with me"

this is non threatning cause is not an invitation for a date or anything serious, it just happened, it's natural...

if you build enough comfort with her she will say yes and then you have your opportunity to escalate things even more

but remember that you have to be careful, cause has you said, it will be very bad if anything goes wrong and you have to work at the same place everyday... you have to use the techniques smoother and the proccess should be slower... like...

at work: tease, c&f, dhv, some light touch... neg her for a couple of days and get back to teasing a little bit more... get her attracted with this... if there are more HBs at your work, do it with all of them, cause once they are attracted they will compete and start to feel jealous if you are paying attention to the other girls

isolate: find something that she likes to do and tell her that you going to do it and tell her that she can come along (don't tell her "i would like you to come", say... "i'm going, and if you want you can come with me") so she wont feel that you are inviting her for a date... ah, do some research about curious things (specially funny and interesting things) about what you going to do and surprise her with the things that you know about it (this is more dhv)... and always works like a charm... (i'm always reading stuff, and sometimes when i bring some funny thing about a topic that i'm talking about with some girl, she'll be surprised and amazed with that stuff and my value will increase a lot, specially if is some stuff that she's into)

escalate: since you are alone with her and having a good time, escalate things with more touching, teasing and more c&f...

during all proccess the eye contact is crucial... try to hold eye contact without saying a word, for some seconds once in a while... if she holds it and if she doesn't pull back your touch escalation... then use the "should i kiss you now or later?" or "would you like to kiss me?" and smile...

if you did everything else right, she will say "yes" (not to often), "maybe" or "i don't know" (which means yes), or "no"... if she says "no" and makes a weird face... it's a real no... if she says "no" but she smiles... it's a yes...

if you try to kiss her and she rejects in a mean way, you can always say "i was just making sure that you really didn't want to kiss me, cause i don't usually date girls from work since i don't want a bad environment over there, so if you wanted to kiss me i would have to cut off our friendship and we would have to be just co-workers"

if the she just pulls her head sligthly back without saying nothing, you just keep doing your stuff to build more comfort and you try again later...

on the 3rd time that you try, if she stills pulling back, call it mission failed

hope it helps

A) ask her out..

B) company makes the rules on fratinizing

Well, I talked to her today after we got off, and we were talking and I mentioned that she seemed like a wiled girl but looked real innocent. After that she said she had some tattoos, and I said "really where", well she said "I have one on my back, do you want to see?".

So before I could say yes, she turns around, we were at a table in the restaurant in the back where the employees eat, well she turns around and starts pulling her shirt up and shows me her tattoo, butt crack and all.

Now, if she really had a boy friend, AND liked him I don't really think she would have done that, THOUGH she is kinda of a wild chick.

Factor 2....

She did she say that she was two weeks late... (you know what I mean) but she has had some stress moving to a new city and starting school at a new place, (and her birth control was changed by her doctor)... (I have talked to my girl (friends) and they say it could be stress related.)

But anyway, I went to the restaurant to eat on my time off tonight in her section, I did the 5 question game on her and she won, so the bet was starbucks b/c I thought I was going to win but she won. I remembered that she really liked "steak and shake" so I told her that I would buy her a milk shake on monday. She was super excited...

So... I have a date tomarrow, monday, at "steak and shake"

I am still trying to figure out if she even has a boyfriend and if they are really involved.

She is a big flirt, I was giving her a real hard time tonight, as she was serving me dinner, (cocky funny).

For all I know, the whole boyfriend and being 2 weeks late is just a test to see how I react, which is, "I don't care if you have a boyfriend, I am still going to hit on you", mentality.

Like I have said before, my emotions are out of it....

When I was at the restaurant tonight all the guy servers knew what was going on, (and I did not even tell them what was up).

It is kinda hard to explain but we seem to just click and are able to talk about anything. I wasn't asking for this, it just fell in my lap.