Ok so here’s the deal. I’ll try to make it short as possible. I took a big chance and told this girl exactly how I felt about her one night after a party. She said she’d been feeling the same way for a few months. We talk a bit about personal stuff. I go in and we make out for a few seconds. I pulled away first. Then she brings up the fact that I’m leaving for school in a week. I know I kinda picked a stupid time to make my move. Anyways when I move in the second time, she pushes away and says “you’re going to hurt me”. I came up with some drunken answer. Anyways point is before we said goodbye I had to ask her straight up if she was attracted to me. This part of my memory gets a little hazy but I remember she said “no”. I then asked how could she have changed her mind so quickly when she’s liked me for months? She replied something like she was trying to make a nice gesture. That confused me a little. Anyways I asked her the same question again and asked her to be totally real with me. She again said “no, not any more”. I was like ok so I left and I think she may have been crying a bit. Anywho now I’m away at school and she’s back home. She came to town to help her sister move in and we hung out for the day but I made it a point to just be her friend. I’m not sure if an ultimatum is the right thing to do here? Anyways at the end she kissed me on the cheek and left. Should this have made me feel AFC? I am going home in a few weeks and I’m not quite sure how to play this.. There’s a million options. One thing I don’t get is if she WAS attracted to me, wouldn’t she want to be with me regardless of how long? Should I give her an ultimatum and tell her it`s too hard for me to continue being her friend. I haven`t talked to her since she left. Help me out with this one guys!

wow, what an AFC move we got there. well, if i were you, i would have kissed her when she said to you she had feelings. hum.. but you didn't. ok then, her reaction was normal because she didn't wanted to look defenseless when you asked her if she found you attractive, she wanted to stay in control. it was sort of a shit test too. and you failed. OK now she kissed you on the cheek, wich is an IOI, you should hang out with her another time (not telling i want to be your friend) and make lots of kino and finish this with a kiss, this is easy she already kissed you, she will not push you away.

anyway, thats what i would do...

thanx for the advice. I did kiss her when she said she had feelings for me. thats y im worried i might not be a good kisser and thats why she pushed me away the second time?