| Here comes my first post. It's a long story, so bear with me here.
So I'm currently a Sophomore in college. Last year during orientation I met this girl that was displaying astronomical IOIs. She friended me on Facebook, kept posting on my wall all summer. We start school and she's on me like white on rice. She is the one initiating hand-holding, calling me, coming over to my room. Through Facebook I know she has a boyfriend from High School, but I assume that she's going to dump his ass (or else why would she blatantly be all over me?). One night I apparently "take it too far" by giving her a couple kisses on the forehead. In retrospect I think she actually was not ready to break up with her old boyfriend and get with me.
Anyway, she cuts off all contact with me after that. This is mid-September, a little less than a year ago. We go our separate ways for about two months, then start building a friendship by way of our mutual friends. By the end of last year, she was giving me some IOIs, but not nearly as strong as when we first met. I figure things are looking up, although I'm still in the LJBF camp.
Meanwhile, this summer my friends introduced me to the world of PUA. I immediately realize that a) I'm an AFC and a Nice Guy, and b) these resources are absolute gold. I do my homework and read up in preparation for the coming year at school. I try to build rapport with this girl over Facebook, but that has obvious limits. She spent her summer abroad, so seeing her in person was not an option.
School has started, and the last week I've been trying to game this girl out of the LJBF situation. I initiate kino whenever I see her. She often sees me shirtless or even in just my boxers, mostly because it's so damn hot in our room. I never break eye contact, although occasionally I worry I go overboard.
The last two days have been the most interesting, though. Last night I was at a party, drunk but not even close to shitty. She texts me and asks me where I'm partying. We meet outside the house and she's as drunk as I am, so we are both able to communicate effectively.
I manage to hook up with her a couple times, but in between the kissing she's saying that she knew since last week that I liked her again and that she doesn't like me back. She also tells me she doesn't know what she wants and that she might need years to get over her old BF. I think it's mostly/completely BS. A couple more kisses and she's still giving me the same BS after I tell and show her I want her.
I give her the ultimatum: either we can have a sexual relationship or we can't be friends anymore. She's still saying she doesn't know, so I leave her at the party and go back to my room to pass out.
Today I get a text from her basically telling me to come over. I take the 2 minute walk to her building and meet her in her room. After a bit of small talk I remind her of last night's events.
Me: Listen, I know you remember everything that was said and done last night.
Her: [generic response] and I don't want to get into a relationship or anything serious. I want my freedom [I'm paraphrasing here]
Me: Well it doesn't have to be like that. We don't have to get all serious.
Her: [more BS about not knowing what she wants]
Me: [backing off touching her, moving for the door] Well what I said last night still stands.
Her: Don't you think that's kind of dramatic?
Me: [wave as I exit the room and head back to my building].
Here's my plan going forward: indifference. I'm just going to wait for however long it takes for her to give me a verdict. If she doesn't respond in a couple days I'm going to start putting more effort into picking up other girls.
So am I on the right track? What does that "dramatic" comment mean? Any advice for an rAFC?
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