Hey all,

Planning to head to a city pub this afternoon by myself. Any tips on how to handle myself so I don't seem like a loner who has no friends? I have trouble approaching even when I'm out with mates, so can't see myself doing it when I'm alone.

Any thoughts or suggestions?

3 second rule
3 second rule
3 second rule

I find it easier to do it alone once you start rolling and you can say your meeting your friends here in a little bit.

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up until recently i got incredible anxiety about solo sargeing.


however I spent 3 months out of the country living by myself; not knowing anybody, and it's incredibly easy, with the right attitude.

Most of it is basic PUA shit; SMILE, the party is where you are, don't look around, 3 second rule, but I also found that HB's were far less threatened by a single guy than a group of sleazeballs, as long as your body language and tonality convey that you truly are unaffected by their opinion of you.

Most people love to meet a new person so just go in there and TALK and have some DHV / funny stories lined up... just be fun and dont feel like you have to prove anything to anyone.







Also, solo sarging is great because you realize that NO ONE is going to bring a HB to you; and if you think about it logically, its all your responsibility, and it's easy to overcome AA

you should adjust your mood to sarge..

talk to people on the street,ask somebody time,talk to the bar employees,
smile,enjoy yourself,enjoy the bar

I should clarify something. I always approach solo, although I do have a female friend who sometimes comes into the conversation - great help as she's a bubbly person.

But what I mean is I normally go out with female friends so this gives me a bit of social credit because we normally laugh and joke and just have a great time. And the girls see this.

Like someone wrote earlier:

1. SMILE!
2. Have an open body language (no beer held up high, no arms crossed..)
3. Don't look around for targets! (This is something I did a lot when I was a AFC)
4. Approach immediately, if you wait to long (3 second rule is pure gold!) you will over think the approach and probably get too nervous. When you do approach immidiately, it looks more spontanious and thats a great start when you're approaching.
5. Remember, if you approach a nice HB-set and it works well, how do you think the other girls nearby will think about you? Exactly! You gain much higher value and they will probably WANT you to approach them too.

all those tips are silver and gold. Soloing is actually a gd way to go about doing it, cos if you have no one with you, no one will hold you back, push you about, and all that. its a problem that i know. whenever i go out and start talking to a girl, there is always one of my AFC friends that budges in and ruins it all.

My advice is either go alone, with a girl or with a fellow PUA, cos AFCs will try to get in the action and compleatly ruin your night.

and of corse, 3 second rule, always!!! you see, you approach, you open, and the game beguinns

game on

Yeah I'm all for the solo approach - I have one friend who's great at picking up but I know if I winged with him I don't have the skill to back him up. It's better to go with at least 2 girls though otherwise chicks assume you're a couple - one of my female friends went up to a hens party, asked how their night was going and started talking me up to them - they assumed we were together.

Seriously though solo is the way to go. Just talk to anyone. I started chatting to a guy tonight who knew some judges for a local catwalk comp that was going. Then later that night I started chatting to this girl who introduced me to her friend and to a friend of her friends lol. Then started talking to her friend saying me and joe were just talking about blah blah and I was essentially in. Unfortunately it didn't go anywhere as she works 6-7 days a week.

I read this all the time and its weird to me because where I live if you go to nightclub alone it means you have balls and its instant DHV to everybody. And I mean it.