I work at an events venue in Melbourne as a barman and on food service. I work with some pretty good looking girls, one of them being the HB9. I had been bantering with her for a few weeks and eventually arranged to hang out one day. We spent the day shopping for shit I needed (good day 2 approach I think). I didn't kiss her at all that day. For the rest of the week we texted back and forth random shit. I also called her everyday to speak for five or ten minutes. We spent the day together again the Friday of the same week. It was on Friday I kissed her, she hesitated, so i froze her out and jumped on my bed. She didn't take long to join me.
Saturday she came over again, things got more intimate (but no sex, i would have but she was not up for it because my parents were home), then we had work together that night. Then Monday she came over again and said that she couldn't be with me, and that sometimes it felt right, and others it didn't. So she left and I am pretty sure she doesn't want to continue having an intimate relationship. How do I get this girl? And how do I stop it from slipping into 'let's just be friends?'
I know some will say go date other girls, but is there anything else I can do that will make her want me?

First off, you shouldn't be concerned about individual women, this a scarcity mentality. Instead you should reflect on what mistakes you think you made and try to address those with future women.

So lets look at whats wrong. You are making yourself way too available to this girl, and it shows in the frequency with which you saw this girl. This may have given her the impression that you have nothing else better going on than seeing her, which would lead her to cherish you less, and make you boring. Everybody likes to earn a persons affection, which you have not made this girl do. Some other guy has probably come along and piqued her interest, and she has chosen to follow that path since she thinks you will always be there for her.

Wanna get her back? Be one step ahead of her. Chicks can't stand that. She wants to give you space, take it. Ignore her at work, don't give her any attention she hasn't earned. If SHE initiates conversation, be friendly but that's it. Start to pursue other women and make no attempt to hide this from her.

DO NOT CALL HER! she needs to know you can take her or leave her, it makes no difference to you.

Good Luck

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Thanks.
I had a good idea that's an answer I would get. It's good to get confirmation. So I should just completely ignore her? How do I keep her interested if she doesn't have to think about me? Should I vocalise to her that I'm dating other women? Should I invite her out with me? Because I have already let her know of a party this Friday coming up.
Jay

Yes - definatley make her come to the party BUT - don't make it seem like you are asking for her to be there for you; in fact, if at all possible, get someone else to invite her subtlety (Invite her best friend and tell that friend to bring as many people as she can - for example).

but don't tell her you're dating other women - show her!lol

at the party go for the groups of women and AMOG the shit out of them with cocky-funny (My preferred one - but choose whatever suits you best) and show her *you* are what *she* wants not the other way around...

I wish you best of luck with it mate

Unfortunately the party is an invite only event. So I am just left with freezing her out. Not going to call or text her. I don't know if she's likely to call or text me though. She has initiated that before, should I ignore her and not answer her calls? Answer and say I'm busy? Or answer and talk like normal?
Jay

I'm sorry - but I'm going to have to admit that you've stumped me on that one - I'd personally answer them and be cocky-funny...

BUT - I think you need the advice of someone more qualified in this particular aspect of picking-up than me, I regret to say...

Sweet. I got a text from her yesterday while I was working at another job. I have decided that a bit of random text messaging can't really hurt. It's how our relationship began, so it's just like taking it back a step. I don't know if that's a good tactic. It is however something that we both enjoy doing with each other and it was what lead to an intimate relationship. I just don't know if it will make us slip into 'friends' mode.

I also think that inviting her to this party is a good idea. I haven't spoken to her on the phone since the day she called it off. I know that inviting someone by text message is a bad move. Should I call her tomorrow afternoon and tell her she's coming with me? What should I do?

It seems like you've already lost it as she doesn't feel "it".

That means she's not attracted to you anymore. It's not like with a guy where your looks determine a static level of attractiveness. Girl's level of attraction for you changes moment to moment based on your behavior. From the post it's hard to tell how you messed up but my guess is you came off needy and hung out with her too much, too soon.

I'd say move on and find another girl.

S

Yeah, I am not really experienced enough to know where I stuffed up. I really just need to get as many approaches under my belt as I can. It's too bad about this girl really. She is so much fun. I did find a lot of attraction techniques worked wonders. She was good practice.
Thanks for all the help guys
Jay

I have work in a few hours. Anyone got any game plan, because I have nothing? I am just going to play it by ear.