Allright guys heres the situation bout 2 weeks ago super hot chick that ive had a thing for for a lil bit starts talking to me. I get her over to my house and first get to gether went well. Def IOI's so at this point its a comfortable situation. Next few days tells me she wants to kiss me. so this all happens we made out for bit only to get a call saying she had to leave. I go to her place and we chilled super relaxed kinda a 3rd date thing kissed i left pritty basic. Then she askes me if i like her i didnt wanna asnwer this so i didnt and she knows that i like her because it was obvious right. Anyways she says well however you feel i dont have the time for a boyfriend right now. I said i understood played it cool still hung out with her and she still flirted with me and we couldnt keep our eyes off each outher and it was killing me. Anyways one night i asked her if she liked me and she said she didnt know. then she says no but im thinking no fucking way. Then i was pissed and kinda made her mad kuz i found out she had some stupid 3some really fucked up. And when we kissed she had to make the move which made me look like a fucking fag


anyways guys is there any way i could get her attention again and get this back to where we were...... i always do this and react bad well this time i need to change it i need a way to smooth things over about our kinda fight and get her back to me again. Thanks guys



Alright 2nd post here and thanks for the help ive gotten so far and yes i agree that was a limiting post so ill kinda map it out for you a little better


when she first asked me if i liked her it was on the computer so it was kinda wierd. I told her i dint want to answer that so to that one reply i now see what you were saying about that was a good thing she asked. Yeah and i dunno i prob shouldnt of been so serious i should of been alot more AMOG and said something a little more seductive but not too bold. But i cant change that now. As far as the fight which really complicates things is she dated one of my good friends and they hate each other now. He doesnt have a problem with me and her cuz i asked him straight up and he said go for it. She doesnt have a prob with him that much anymore cuz they just ignore each other. Anyways so at this point it was made to her that i liked her not by physically telling her but tthrough my actions. So it was a good establichment that i made this point but.............shes a very smart girl but also very insecure about herself and she getts very mad very quick (not a good trait but im getting used to it) anyways she was being quite a bitch that night and i couldnt take it i was really getting pissed but i was keeping my cool so under it all she couldnt tell then when she left she flipped out cuz one of the reasons fueling her anger was her family. Me not really knowing the sitution kinda said what came to head at first and i said "yeah that stuff happens but we cant stop it thats just life. Family has a way of working itself out and im sure that in the end everything will be fine" .......she replyed by saying that her sister just moved out without telling her paretns and shes only about 17 i would say but when i asked her what happened she wouldnt tell me so i kinda had to assume. anyways that pissed me off so i said well you never told me that dont bitch at me im only trying to help and her response was aND BY THE WAY THIS IS ALL BY TEXT anyways her response was i think i like (my friend that she dated) again. and she knew i liked her so this got under my skin i knew she didnt mean but it was still kinda a cheap shot so i was pissed so i never said a word to her that whole night. i wake up around 8 30 next morning to a message saying sorrry and shit and whatever and i just really didnt care for it but then i found out that she had been lying to me and she hooked up with some guy that she told me she didnt hook up with so this made it worse and i really didnt want to accept her apology after finding that out lately ive not been talking to her and kinda been relaxing and trying to not worry about it and suprise she called me tonight to talk think she still likes me???? thanks for the help hope to hear from you all again


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It's hard to say due to the lack of information about your fight.. If you've had something going on, you can probably get it back. If your fight was bad and it was obviously your fault, apologize, but in a non-wussy way. Don't come begging for forgivenes, but tell her that you're sorry and you were wrong because of whatthehellyoudid. If it was her fault and none of yours, then let it go. Just contact her, and if your vibe is bad, tell her something like "Look. I know that last time went pretty bad, but it should ruin our friendship", or something.

Now, if you want to get her interested again, STOP BEING A WUSSY! Take control, do things on your terms. The biggest AFC-move you can do, is to constantly wait for her to make a move. What most girls want, is to be swept of their feet, not to make every move because the guy she's with can't make them herself. I don't know how you're behaving around her, but from what I've seen from your post, do things on your terms, be the boss, don't agree with her when you actually don't, start teasing her, and be generally more alpha.

I suggest you read Double Your Dating and The Mystery Method.

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LOL ok that came out of NOWHERE. It was like innocent hand holding and peck kisses until BAM, 3some.

Alright dude I guess I owe ya some advice. Simple: Stop giving her so much power and stop worrying about her past. Make it clear to her that you are her man now, for god's sake initiate the kiss next time, don't cling to everything she says like commandments from the Oracle, and forget about her past (but do wear a condom).

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I'm just a newbie myself so feel free to ignore my advice. But...

When she asked you if you liked her, I would have thought this was the perfect chance to amp it up from just kissing. Maybe just say something like 'let me show you what I think of you' and go for it. Actually I just re-read your post - did she ask you face-to-face or over the phone? It's not really clear from your post... If over the phone, I don't think it really matters too much what you say. Why didn't you want to answer her? If you didn't like her you wouldn't be talking to her right? She is validating herself to you. It sounds like a good sign to me!

As for asking her if she likes you... This was probably a mistake. In my own admittedly limited experience, this is a major turn off coz it demostrates neediness and emotional insecurity. Like the previous poster said, be a man!

From here, I would suggest when you speak to her you say something like 'I think we were getting really well, so I feel bad about what happened. How about I make it up to you by...' and then suggest something nice and romantic to do, and then, like the previous poster said, sweep her off her feet! If that (or whatever else you try) doesn't work, fuck her off and find someone else!

Hope that helped
Good luck and keep us posted!

PS - I would greatly appreciate anyone with more experience critiquing this advice, given I'm a newbie and all...