The Pick Up, From Start to Finish



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PostPosted: Thu Mar 15, 2007 7:08 am 
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This is my first Pick Up article. Its a collection of what I've learned and tested over the last month. There are plenty of references so if you want to follow up on some areas that you are weak on, look into these further.

Attraction Process:
B y Ace
It has taken me some time from reading and field experience to really figure the art of the pickup. As you know, it’s a science. There is very little variation from the “ideal situation.” You see a girl. You are instantly attracted to her. Whether she’s a HB 9 or HB10, you have to think of her as a 6 so you do not think of hesitate. Even if you know you are a 10, she will see you as a 6 when you approach her. Nothing against you, hell you may even be good looking but she doesn’t know all your good qualities mostly because you haven’t displayed them yet. Things that can instantly boost or help you move from a 6 to an 8 are peacocking material(MYSTERY), strong body language(DAVID DEANGELO) and a clear strong voice. The best greeting is “Hi, how are you?” (JUGGLER). Its natural, its normal and it doesn’t just drop a line in her lap. You don’t have to be directly in front of her. In fact I think it’s better to approach from the outside and make her turn for you, its shows initial acceptance. Speak with a pleasant tone and not like you have somewhere to run off to, so speak slow and clear. A loud booming voice isn't necessary but it has to be loud enough for her to hear.
Give good eye contact, shows confidence and gives you a good chance to really create rapport. Speak enthusiastically. Don’t get in her face but take higher interest in what you are talking about. Don’t make the conversation about her. Make it about you. You have to display higher value. You can’t do that by fawning(SAT WORD) her. She knows she is hot. You know she is hot too. Don't let her know that. You're attracted to her, but you have to turn the tables and make her want you more.
Now you’re probably thinking, what the hell do I talk about? I see something in the area and ask her about it. Just genuine concern or asking her opinion. IE. “What was that guy with the petition asking you to sign?” or “Hey, just wondering what do you think about this movie?” or “I couldn’t help but notice that you’re drinking an energy drink at 10AM.” All things that have happened to me in the field. Don’t just ask her without putting your own input. You can either agree with her emphatically and let her walk all over you or can put in your two cents. Whatever you say has to stick out in her mind. Be honest and use I statements. They show affirmation and confidence. You can be very forward and tell her exactly how you feel but I feel that this can come off as very abrasive. I prefer listening to what she has to say and throw in your own differing opinion while agreeing with her. For instance, “Yeah, I get what you mean but I really feel that Will Ferrell makes a lot of the same stupid-funny movies and its starting to get repetitive.” She’ll either agree, disagree or change the subject. If she agrees she might be looking for acceptance because her opinion differed. She may as well contradict herself but who cares. If she disagrees, counter it by asking her to prove herself or elaborate more. If she changes the subject, either point it out or see where she is going. If she drops something in about sex, JUST RUN WITH IT. Some times a girl will say something like, "I actually like to make out with girls sometimes, like when I'm drunk." Style says, "Respect" with a fist raised up. Ace says, "Hey now" in a neutral tone. I don't like to get too excited because it definitely shows too much interest. Some say, there really is no way to win this, she could just be teasing you but I think you can just affirm it without making her look like a whore and then come out on top.
I love to refer to this quote when I think about talking to girls. “The truth is, I don’t pretend to not give a fuck. I don’t give a fuck what she has to say.” (SOME GREAT PUA)
Don’t let her take control of the conversation. Remember, IT’S A WOMAN’S JOB TO CONTROL A MAN BUT IT’S A MAN’S JOB NOT TO LET THAT HAPPEN. (DEANGELO).
Start the next topic like, “I really like ironic and funny movies like, ‘Kiss Kiss Bang Bang. Have you ever seen that movie? Oh, you haven’t.” Or just a story opener like, "Have you ever been to...? Oh, let me tell you about what happened this one time." If she has been to where ever you can say something like, "Oh yeah, well the funniest thing had happened when I went there." At this point you should be a good story teller and tell her about the plot or about your experiences. Give great detail and show enthusiasm. A little cocky comedy wouldn't hurt. “What’s the coolest movie you’ve ever seen?” or “What do you like?” or "Has anything like that ever happened to you?" Show interest but don’t be afraid to contradict. Tease her a bit. Ask her what she’s talking about? or ask her to clarify something when you really don’t know about it or if she's not making sense. You'll learn a little more and you'll create better rapport. If you just agree with her when you have no previous knowledge, you’re lying, making yourself look weak or trying too hard to appease her with commonalities.
I stopped laughing when others laugh. I find that people laugh more for acceptance, than they do because something is funny. Most people laugh at their own jokes because they want you to laugh. I give a smirk or a smile. It shows that I don’t reject her but I’m not vying for her acceptance. If you get her laughing for no reason, she wants approval. Give her a little but not too much. Tease her with compliments and make her work for them.
Now everyone can get up to here. YOU NEED TO DO TWO THINGS TO ACTUALLY CONSIDER IT A PICK UP. These two are the hardest parts, THE CLOSE AND THE SOI(Sign of interest). If you need to work on this, my best advice is looking for some articles on inner game. Kent Sayre has an unbelievable program for this. His DVD explains it all and really can help you out.
In chronological order, the SOI should come before the close. BUT THAT IS NOT ALWAYS THE CASE. I think you don't need to say something all of the time. When attraction is there, its clear but more often then never. You may not see it or she doesn't. I have found that trying to initiate some sort of higher ground becomes harder if you don’t make your intentions clear in the first contact. Juggler recommends telling her that she’s “sexy.” It definitely does stand out and makes your intentions clear. I really think that you should take this little leap. If you do it, you can risk losing her all together but honestly if you don’t try, you’re doing the same thing you always do and pretty much guaranteeing that you’re going to lose her.
Its more natural to make a close when you are about to leave. “Hey, this was fun. We should definitely talk again sometime. Let me get your number, I would love to get in touch with you.” I don’t like to ask. It comes off as weak or seeking approval. Make it seem like it’s the next step. Don’t demand it but make her want to give it. For this you might want to learn from Ross Jeffries of his persuasive arts.
I would love for someone to elaborate on the Closing or the SOIs but honestly, if it’s simplified you won’t try to put so much thought or emphasis on it and it will come off as natural.


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