Am I in the wrong forum to be asking this question?

So last week my gf who now is my ex broke up with me due to an incident which she completely overreacted to and in my perspective was not my fault. I won't go in to the details but I will if it's going to helps. She tells me that she will not "let me touch her again," and gave me an option to be friends or nothing at all. I didn't provide an answer for that yet. We still talk over IM, but not frequent.

The problem is that she recently moved to another state due to getting laid off. However I might be moving to the same state as her, because I have a prospective better job opportunity there.

Although the knee jerk reaction is to forget about her and move on, I believe in not giving up and trying to make an effort to get her back. And if after all that effort it doesn't work out...then I know I gave it my best.

What do you think?

Well is she hot?

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Smookkin, and freak in the sheets. Trust me it's worth it.

Oh in that case you'll have to give me her phone number. For research purposes of course...

Anyway, because of the way she ended that, you pining for her attention in any way right now will just drive her farther away. Trust me you do not want to be the ex that moved across state lines to stalk her. Right now she has all the power in this situation. You should ignore her demand of "friend or nothing" because the correct answer is neither.

You need to relax, lay back, gain some perspective on life, and go see some other girls. Give her some time and a lot of space. If she values what you had, maybe she will forgive your mistake (trust me, it's YOUR mistake...it always will be in her mind), look back on all the good times you had, and call you up out of the blue one day. I know it's hard---I have trouble following my own advice sometimes---but you've got to do it.

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Thanks Road, that's some quality advice and fortifies what my current thoughts are. But if and when I do move to her State should I let her know? Or does it depend on who contacts who first?

You know if you really want the best answer you should give me her number so I can conduct the proper research for an in-depth analysis.

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No. Look at it from her perspective: "I just broke up with him and he's followed me to MY new state of residence! OMG stalker!!!" She probably won't buy whatever reasonable explanation you'll give.

Now say she does call you. And you do reconcile. The subject of place of residence (by the way, im putting this in parens so it wont hurt too badly, but moving far far away from an ex does seem to indicate a rather permanent split does it not) comes up and you tell her where you live. She'll be surprised and caught off guard: "He's lived in the same state and hasn't bothered to call ME?! What's going on!!" It shows you have a life outside of your relationship, and it'll be a huge thing for her to see that.

So yeah, I would love for this to end up like in the movies where the guy chases after his ex and apologizes and begs for her to come back and she does, but ... they smoke crack in Hollywood.

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go to the hookers and fuck 10 different women,

at least i fucked 4 when i was broke

Thank guys.

ROFL!!! well did you still have one-itis? LOOL!

The way of the PUA

Screwing hookers is not very PUA.

Listen, woman have a tougher time going the "friend" route than men. The only reason it seems like they are in more control is that by the time they break up with a guy, they've been fucking the next guy for 6 months already and have been weening off of you emotionally for that time. Why do they habitually do this? Because they can't handle going the friend route without a emotional landing pad.

You want her back? The number 1 thing you could have possibly said when she asked about the "friend or nothing" was to say, "Wow, that's really cool. It'll be different but let's try it out." Then go sarge, sarge, sarge. Let it be known. Call her up and use HER as a pivot and pick up 6's, 7's. 5's, 10's . . . whatever. Make out with a ton of girls in front of her.

Men get jealous of intimate acts. We see sexual action and that's it.

Women can be the same but they are more jealous of social groups. She sees you bounce off of her and receive fun, give fun, and generally participate in high value social situations and she will snap like a brittle cookie. By this time of course, why would you even bother with her?

Only AFC's go the "I can't handle it . . uh the pain!" gurgle, gurgle, slop, I'll just never call her again route. (Well, you can do that for a few days. . .) But pick yourself up! The players use everything to their advantage. Take her out . . . "What? ex's can't go clubbing together?"

Yeah . . . I know, easier said than done because I'm not you and you're not me and I'm not in your situation. Believe me, I've been in your situation. Everybody has . . .

I'm in that situation right now, and the only advice I can give you my friend is this: If it's meant to happen, it will. No amount of force of will on your part will change that. I do hope it works out for the best, but I'm sure in the long run that no matter what happens, it will. It's better to have loved and lost...you know the saying. I just hope you know it's true too. Shalom.

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Cohath

hey dude whats up yeah i see your situation and alot of the past posts covered alot you need to know. I learned from experience that the best advice you can take from me would be whatever you do just dont tell her youmoved there if its been a while and it comes up then ya thats reasonable. My ex just called me about 5 hours ago and hasnt called me since we brioke up and im assuming its cuz im in a ppicture making up a 9.0 so the most solid thing to do is s=make her envy your happyness because there are two things that can happen. One thing is over this period of sarging your either gonna find someone new or get her back so both ways your cover

good luck dude i know how you feel just drop the part of you attached to her and it helps

peace -----zappped