Hi Buddies,

I have just been out this evening and a couple of GR8 looking Asians girls who are cousins. I know one of them from before as she live on e my street almost opposite me, and "have to have" her.

But she is playing hard to get.

I asked her fro her number on the pretence that I had some business I was doing and cause she works for a bank sh could help me out.

She didn’t want to give me her number so I NEged her by saying

Fenway: "Don’t flatter yourselves - it not that I am interested in you" -

She said: What you mean dont flatter yourself.
She looked a bit angry - Her cousin then intervened and showed interests in what My business proposal was.

But I was so fixed on the "have to have" girl that I made so lame excuse for the cousin and concentrated my attention on the have to have girl.

Fenway: We both can make a lot of money that’s why we need to get together for half hour or so and talk

Girl: No thanks I am not interested.


Fenway: Look I give a week to think about it - let me know - and by the way dont flatter yourself I if I fancy "

She looked a little tearful and said
Girl: Want you mean "

Fenway: OK I off and I left.

Have I NEgged her enough -next time should I do Shades push pull technique or Have I blown it altogether.

My intention is to get her to think about me.
How is this as a start, a

Should I meet her next week and get an answer
or
Should I let her get so obsessed about me and play cold?
What should I do next?

Is she always so mean? Or just when you asked for her number?

She seems to be cold most the time - there one or 2 times when she was not so cold.

Oof, sounds like you're getting a little ahead of yourself here. You haven't said anything that leads one to believe you've created any attraction here in your interactions with this girl. You asked for her number and she turned you down. Then you shifted to a false pretense, which generally isn't a great idea. There's a time and a place for negs, but when you use a blunt, aggressive neg like that right after a (minor) rejection, it comes across badly. There's a fine line between negging and acting like a dick, and it would seem you've crossed it. The next mistake, which you've already realized, was that you ignored her cousin and continued to focus all of your attention on the girl you're interested in. To put this in PUA terminology, you could have used the question as a chance to phase out the original girl and be a real AMOG - talking about an exciting business deal with a member of the girl's family is a great way to present yourself in a positive light.

Negs need to be fun and playful, and I don't think yours were interpreted as either. She needs to have fun with you. She needs to enjoy your interactions. A lot of people get so hung up in running game that they forget that little truism. It's definitely time for push/pull here - now that you've established the "cold" side of the equation, it's time to go "warm." Next time you see her, you need to be a bit more playful than you have been.

I have known her for a couple of years as she lives virtually opposite me. I know her brother pretty well as we worked together. I once saved him from getting his ass kicked by 3 guys while she was watching and desperatley hoping someone would help her brother.

A Day later I saw her and comforted by asking if she was OK and that she could rely on me - I then saw her typically every 2 months when she be in the store - I have had to make an effort to "accidentally bump into her in the store" she was OK to talk to me but not Excited to talk to me About 12 months ago when I tried to meet her at a bus stop "accidentally" I noticed she started to go more cold. And I have been trying to get rapport - but it been damn hard to find common place where I could meet her until recently-

How to be playful with her and ideally with her friend so it doesnt look too forced ? And if she doesnt want to take the bait what should I do?
Would be grateful for your advice Buddies.