Ok I know a thing or two, and one word I've run into many times with no deffinition or lead up of how to change them is: Frames

Any help here?

The context and purpose of an interaction, if I'm not mistaken. Asking a girl about her age, likes, dislikes and where she works, has a different frame in a job interview than in a bar.

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A frame is the underlying implication (or meaning) of an interaction. In other words, you are FRAMING the conversation in a particular meaning. Sometimes it is also called sub-communication or subtext.

So for example if you start complimenting her and sucking up like a desperate chump, then you set the frame that you are a LOSER and she is a HIGH-VALUE goddess in your eyes.

But if you tease her and use false disqualifiers, blow off her shit-tests playfully, and overall have powerful tonality and body language, you set the frame that YOU have higher value than she does, and you are a real MAN who knows how to have fun.


There are plenty of other frames you can set (and women also try to trap you in their frames, so beware!) but these are the two basic ones that most guys need to understand.