Hey guys, i am pleased to bring you the post with a cut out of the new starters guide i have been working on. It is only a sample and its todo with that one true love, or oneites as its known. Hope it helps, and would love opinion on it.
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Many people joining the PUA community will probably be joining to work out how to get the girl of their dreams. Of these people many may have a specific girl they like when joining and want to use PUA techniques to “wow” her and hopefully get a relationship. While admirable that you feel you have found the person of your dreams, unless you are already dating her it is very unlikely PUA will be able to help you at this stage because you only want her.
I am by no means saying a PUA couldn’t get this girl, I probably could get that girl you like and so could all the experienced people on PUAF. The main reasons I could and you can’t is because of how we view the girl. To me, she is just another girl. Nothing special or something I haven’t come across before. Wait, don’t tell me I am wrong I am sure you think she is amazing but I doubt she really is anything I haven’t seen before. I don’t mean that in a rude way, it’s just that you have to appreciate that no single person (or women) is that much more special that all the others.
So why is this belief is that she is something special affecting your ability to attract her? There are many reasons. Firstly, because you want her and only her you have given her a high value. By this I mean that girl in your eyes is very important and you really want her. Now, this is bad because you will subconsciously portray this admiration which will affect how she see’s you. In her eyes, if you think highly of her then therefore she must be more valuable that you are. This is the problem. Since the girl believes you are less important than here there is very little chance of her becoming attracted to you because as humans we naturally seek the best option and in her eyes being associated with you will lower her value and therefore won’t be a good option in order to improve.
On the side note of you thinking so highly of her you will also subconsciously give off a needy and desperate vibe. This isn’t your fault, since in your mind you are desperate for her and if you got her would be very needy of attention and want to maintain the relationship. This form of mindset is very hard to get rid of and it is also a huge problem when you’re trying to attract her. Women look to men to be strong and in control and to lead. They do not want a man who is always looking to them as the authoritative figure.
Lastly the main problem with you gaming this girl you like so much, the one girl you like is that if you are coming to us for help is it almost guaranteed that you have already tried to game her and failed. Now, if you have already failed it either means you are friends with her (Lets just be friends zone) or you have done something to make her dislike you. Either way, they are positions that are very hard to get out of.
Now, until you lose all of the above problems your situation isn’t going to change. Don’t blame me for being negative yet though, I can still help. This is a step by step guide on how to improve your chance with the girl and maybe even find you someone better.
1) First you have to fix the thought that she is amazing, this is probably one of the easiest stages of what is a very hard process. I won’t lie it will be hard. To get perspective on this girl there is no other way other than to compare her to other women. This is how we as humans make a judgement on things; we compare it to other things. So how can you do this? Easy, Go out and game 10 other women. Properly. This is quite a hard one to work on but as a general rule people say F-close at least 10 women. This is no easy feat and it will take a lot of time. However, when you have done this it is very likely that you won’t feel the same about this girl you like because you will realise she isn’t that unique. This will also help you in gaming the girl you like indirectly. When you are associated with lots of attractive women (preferably sexually associated) you will become more valuable to the girl you like now. This is because you are in demand, if you ever learn about business the key principle to selling something is how much of it there is, and how many people want it. Become in demand, and the girl you like will be more keen to get you.
2) The other thing you have to cure is how you messed it up with her already (if you have never spoken to her, this isn’t needed). Now, no matter what happened, if you are friends or not talking it doesn’t matter. There is basically nothing you can do to change it for ages. That’s because you have already been associated a position in her life and she has learn that people don’t change so therefore for someone to move position in her life is very hard. There is only two ways to get out of a zone well and you won’t like them. The first, which is very unlikely to happen, is move from one zone to the one you want. This takes a hell of a lot of effort, months of work and a complete re-write of what she thinks of you. Just ask yourself, when did you last completely change your opinion of someone? Not very recently at a guess. Now, there is another much easier way to move zones. Go out of the one you’re in, and then go into a new one. Now, that probably sounds the same but it isn’t. The only time you are not in a specific part of someone’s life is when you aren’t in it. That’s right; you have to get out of her life. Normally for a minimum of three months or so. It has to be a long enough time for her to be able to believe you’re different. After that three months or so, you will have either forgotten about her or be ready. If you come back into her life, you have very little time to change her opinion of you before she remembers exactly what you were like before.
If you do those two things and do them properly, you will either have a hell of a lot more chance in getting this girl or you won’t be bothered that much anymore.
Madals
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