i was thinking about this today. how should i approach guys with out intimidating them...and is it a good idea to approach a guy at a gym?? if so...how do i do it?

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im just a girl, youre just a boy...can i make it any more obvious.....cliche yes..but o so true

approach and throw in some subtle IOI's and be friendly to them. you're bound to get the same reaction back if you just act nice and keep the conversation flowing, and i wouldnt think of a girl approaching me as intimidating either. if anything you'd be relieving a lot of pressure from the guy which is a huge factor. and as for the gym? not always the best place as some guys take their workouts very seriously and dont like to be interrupted in the midst of it, so youre best bet is to make your move is when they are taking a short break, preferably without doing it in between sets as they only have a minute or less to talk before they get started up again

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When Life Gives You Lemons, You Paint That Shit Gold

Hmmm. This is a brilliant questions although very confusing.
The first thing that popped into my head was this is easy, just be ovbious you are thinking about getting off with him. But then i thought what if a girl did this to me, she would come off as desperate and DLV like mad. Not attractive.
Then i thought just a friendly hello and simple convo would be good, then i thought of all the AFC's out there who would just think you want to be a friend, just being nice w/e. They would notice the IOI of you approching.

Whenever a girl has approched me, i will admit unless i am in a gaming mood (out at a party or something) i will not notice her hitting on me, they are usually far to subtle and I just disregard it as human interaction. I think the best time i have been aproched the girl was using a very similar game to me in regards to kino, C&F and push pull (although not to much push pull). The only difference was she was more kino and lots of IOIs (guys WILL miss IOIs, even when they are gaming a girl.) Its probably a safe bet to use a SOI (show of interest) quite early on, so the man realises what is going on.

Approching in a gym is a difficult 1. I know i am a very competative guy and in the gym if a girl came up while i was benching pressing and made a C&F comment about the weight or w/e i would take it as a insult (just like a women would if you said she was ugly or w/e). Also take into account that in gyms people are all hot and sweaty, not the most attractive moment

This isnt really much help i must say, but its a very unusual question . However, damn u!! you made me think I will be back, i will have answers and i will work this out.!!!


Madals

haha thnks. yah what now boys the tables have turned haha. as for the gym i would never approach a guy who is benching that is just way to scary haha. i meant like whne im at one machine and he is at one across from me or next to i usually smile and make eye contact and thats about it....

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im just a girl, youre just a boy...can i make it any more obvious.....cliche yes..but o so true

Ah, i love you

Anyways, on a machine if you both make eye contact and you smile, you are giving him an IOI. If he doesnt talk to you, he is an AFC (i mean, a smile after starting EC is just a "PLEASE TALK TO ME")

I would suggest a hello, dont try to take control of the convo, since it will make him seem threatened by you (or just make him think that you will make his phone bill go through the roof ) However, keep the convo going.
AH, i am a genious! i got it.
BUILD UP HIS CONFIDENCE
Yep, thats it. I am working with him being an AFC, and if he isnt it wont matter. A guy will alwyas fall down when trying to escelate (from looking at you, to talking to you, to touching you, to kissing you, to... .well ) This is because at each of these stages its a risk to him. Now, i have already worked out your a nice girl, but he might not have done. All he can see in his pretty little head is him saying hello and you saying "fuck off you freak" or something to that effect depending on which stage he is trying to move to.

So, how do you help him along his way, without taking over?
From opening, if u smile and EC and he doesnt say hello, just do it, he is strange and possible socially inexperienced
A simple hello will do when u say it dont smile, until he says hi back. When he does say hi back, you are going to reward him with an IOI. Look him in the eyes and smile (obviously, a seoncd or 2) before repling.

This technique of rewarding him with an IOI will work all the way through. When he says something you like, asaks a question you find interesting aand generally does something which will enchance the interation give him an IOI, be it a touch, smile, hug. Anything.
When you feel its about time to kiss, well, amp up IOIs, give him loads, get close to him, tbh, the more obvious you make it without starting it yourself the better.

Hope that helps
Madals

yah it deff does...if ever i get my ass back to the gym ill try it haha. would commenting on how much he can lift be good thing?? or is that way to over done. haha.

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im just a girl, youre just a boy...can i make it any more obvious.....cliche yes..but o so true

Depends on how you do it

Best way is to do in a sort of teasing way..."Come on you can lift more than THAT" (with a little smile)

Something along those lines

You DO NOT want to be like "wow you can lift so much!" or "wow you are so strong" (barf)

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Not a PUA just a girl offering my opinions/advice

yah thats what i was thinking to stay away from.

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im just a girl, youre just a boy...can i make it any more obvious.....cliche yes..but o so true