what do i do when im the one that intiates all the pleasing? I mean she always gets that look on her face when i touch her in the spots shes likes and stuff.

But then she doesnt really give back to me.....I tried telling her once but she took it as an insult, so what do i do?

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Can you tell a n00b how "pleasing" is to be interpreted? You're trying to have sex with her or you already have and need further guidence to get HER to initiate sex?

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- "Only those who are unworthy, ...get lucky". -CB

- "The larger an ego becomes, the more vunerable it is. Like a ballon while inflating gains more and more surface area for a pin to invade." - CB

by pleasing i mean during makeouts and such, i want her to stop kissing my face and give me a bj or do something different than just kissing.

I usually have my hands running all over her bak, sides, kiss her breasts, etc. and she really loves it. but im getting nothing in return

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"Never be afraid to try something new. Always remember: Amateurs built the ark. Professionals built the Titanic"

Have she ever given you a bj?!?

As Hobbit says, stop giving her some, till you get some.... she'll soon get the idea.

dude i had the same problem!! my gf of 2 months was all about it when i was kissing all over her body, but nothing came at me.......she just layed there with her hand on my hip. This was a pain in the ass cuz it took me out of the zone.

So in response to you, tell her what you like and what you want her to do. Make sure to drive the point home that she doesn't do what you want her to do so she should change it up a bit.

Either that or play the kissing game!!!!FUN!!! You draw like 15 hearts on yourself wherever you want to be kissed and tell her to do the same. Use a flavored non-toxic removable writing instrument . Then take turns kissing each other's hearts. You can hide them so she has a tough time finding them (ex: inner thighs, right below the belly button). First to find all of their hearts wins and is so horny your problem won't be a problem any more!!! give it a go!!!

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Sinish

I really like that game idea, might give it a go. The problem is when i told her im not getting pleased, she took it as an insult

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"Never be afraid to try something new. Always remember: Amateurs built the ark. Professionals built the Titanic"

Don't tell her you're not getting pleased, tell her you'll rock her world if she can rock yours. Make it a challenge, give her a reason to want to get you going and not just a job to take care of.

The reason why girls often don't go that extra mile, is because they figure a guy get's what he wants out of just having his way with her and you need to teach her that she is wrong and that if she doesn't get you fired up, then YOU don't see the point in doing sexual things with her, because you can get yourself off just as easily. If you're touching her and she isn't touching you, then you can take her hands and put them where you want, whether it be your head, your dick or whatever. If she doesn't get that, then just stop and go play some videogames, I'm fucking serious; when I was first told this, I thought it was ludicrous and she would be pissed, but instead she'll try to figure out why you're more interested in playing a videogame than playing with her and she's gonna realise it's because you're having more fun playing the game, cause it's interacting back, whereas she isn't.

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~ Rye

good stuff rye lee, might give that video game a go

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im stuck again, i keep on pleasing on her and she absolutely loves it but doesnt please me. WHAT DO I DO?

I like her so i dont want to just be using her but its really like a one way street and shes isnt doing anything in return

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"Never be afraid to try something new. Always remember: Amateurs built the ark. Professionals built the Titanic"

im with ya man, ive got the same problem too with my gf

i feel like i have to do all the work she does lies there and receives everything
i wish she went for my dick automatically, or kissed me everywhere but she doesnt, i always have to ask her.
i really like the hearts game ! really the way i solved it was just take her hand and put it in my pants, she gets the point. or i just take her hand and touched my body where i wanted to be touched.
hope she learns the hard way
no im kidding, i really love my girlfriend

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Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

yea i put her hands there every now and than if she doesnt do it on her own. But just her hand on my dick is nothing compared to what i do for her

I tried telling her that i want her lips around my dick and she said she isnt ready. so maybe i shouldnt push her into it, but should i lay back on pleasing her?

need help

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"Never be afraid to try something new. Always remember: Amateurs built the ark. Professionals built the Titanic"

Stop fucking pleasing her.

Don't satisfy her emotions when she does something you don't like, otherwise she will keep on doing that something and expect the same reward.

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