| Gents,
I've been reading books about PUAs and occasionally checking this and other sites for a couple of years. But only recently did my frustration drive me from complacency.
I've written a long email below to get feedback from anyone who has good advice. This describes my first two forrays into action. I appreciate any feedback. As verbose as this email is, I promise that as my adventures become more interesting, I will write equally long emails detailing how I was succesful.
This past weekend I decided to take serious action. I went out like a man on a mission. Now, what prompted this, aside from frustration, was I moved to a new town - a town with a university and women from all over the world. I'd been in a smaller town, a more boring place, and had very little luck there. My MO back then was to go out, find a girl who was working, sheepishly talk to her, find something we had in common, then build rapport as friends.
This weekend, I decided to get serious. So, I went out and talked to at least ten women - for me, this is a step up. The goal of every interaction was to let the woman know my goal was not friendship, but sexual. On that note, I built rapport, then asked for the number, if I wanted it.
As it turned out, I was not interested in many of the women we started talking, but I got the numbers I wanted.
Yesterday, I couldn't go out, but I went out again today. Within moments of leaving my house, I saw a woman walking by herself. I approached her with an innocuous question ("Where's the ...") (Actually, for me, there is a language barrier because I am an English speaker living in a non-English-speaking country. The first question is always, "excuse me, do you speak English?")
She was initially reluctant, but relented and gave me her number. That's because I didn't give in to her bs right away.
I walked all around town for an hour and got rejected multiple times. It was funny. I felt self-conscious nearly the whole time. Once, I walked up to a girl, said "excuse me," and she just said "no" and kept walking. It was harsh. But, I didn't let it get me down.
Eventually, my self-prescribed hour was up. So, I went to get some take-out food. On the way back, I saw a nice looking girl across the street. I crossed over and tried my line on her. After a minute or two, I asked her out for Thursday. She said she couldn't commit because of orientation activities. I got her email (also new in town and doesn't have a phone yet.) When I got home, I shot her an email and said, "I forgot, I can't meet on Thursday, let's meet next week." I also included a joke in the email at the end. I don't know if that's a good strategy. We'll see.
I think the point is, I went out and talked to a lot of women and tried to get the numbers of every one I liked. Two gave me contact info, two were taken, two blew me off, one was leaving town next week, and two I decided not to follow up with.
So far, I think this is good.
Thanks for any feedback.
Svenska.
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