I am not a bad looking guy at all. In fact, although I blamed my looks all my life for my failures with women, thats a joke. Women think I'm cute and always have. It has always been my quiet demeanor and lack of self-esteem that has burned me, looks are the one thing I DO have going for me. My problem is that I'm not the most outgoing guy in the world. I'm not that Alpha and I know it hurts me. I go to parties, am one of the best looking guys there but the less attractive guy with the more outgoing and always louder personality pulls the hbs. I always thought it was my looks but it just isn't it's my quiet demeanor. I don't lack self-esteen/confidence like I used to but if it just isn't my natural personality to be loud and super outgoing, should I do it anyway, or work as my natural quiet self????

Do you mean the guys that approach a lot of sets generally have more success?

Difference between being quiet and unsociable/unapproachable/miserable-looking. Make sure that you fall into the first category.

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No, I'm not unsociable at all lol. I am very sociable and have no problem opening a set but not as loud or aggressive as other guy and he eventually takes over. Should I stay how I am and just find women that are ok with this or work at changing my whole persona? Even if I feel uncomfortable I still smile. Man, I spent most of my life looking unapproachable and miserable lol

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