Ok well I know this is a terrible topic, but i really need your guys help with this one. I mean deep and seriously helpful stuff. Well... it's kinda hard to express so I'll write it like a book...

I was a loser. An absolute geek to the social circle of my school. I was known as Alex the Average Fag by most of the school. A name given to my by my lovely friends, the jocks of Wesley college. I hated my school life. - This is me about 3 months ago. A time when I knew nothing about the art that is pickup.- My only safe haven from the life of school was a group of friends i was extremely lucky to fall in with. My friend James used to live next to me before he moved a suburb down, but we still remained friends.

James tought me everything. I was new to Australia (just moved from the usa in 2005) and was young and stupid. He tought me to skateboard. He tought me cool words. He basicly tought me coolness in a nutshell. Outside school, I was with his crowd. I was somebody. I was the king of everything and everyone would show me respect.

Then I would go back to school. And again I would enter the gates of the school yard, not as Alex, but as "the average fag". Then... almost two years later, James came to me with news.

He was also a bit slow on the women, but today, his voice shock with excitement. The type of excitement gained from knowing your better than just about anyone else. He had gotten a girlfriend.
"We met at a party! I knew her from school and I figured it couldn't hurt to talk to the coolest girl in the school"

I just felt shocked. If there was one thing in common between James and me, it was that we both were single all the time. Now I was one of the only (litterally the ONLY) person I knew or was friends with who was single.
"Wow! Great!" was about all I could muster.

"I know! Her name is Kristina and man she is m-i-n-t!"

"Wow, lucky you" I said without much conviction. I didn't think much about this little miricle until about two months later. This was the day I met Kristina.

She was short. Or at least short for someone who is in year 12. She had a presense about her. She radiated confidence in a way which scared me. (remember this is almost a year ago and i only found out about the Game 3 months ago). She said hi and we made small talk. I was astounded by her. From my experience, these were the "untouchable" girls. But my best friend was here infront of me, with one as his girlfriend.

The night ended well but I still found myself attracted.
"Weird" i thought and left it at that.

The short story is James and Kristina went out for about 8 months and then broke up on bad terms. I was loyal to James but even after 8 months, i still was atracted to Kristina.

We still see eachother often when im with James, and things between the two seemed to have cleared up a bit. My problem is this. I still want to have her on top of me with her body. I know i cant becuase of James and it kills me becuase i know i have the power to if i wanted. I am loyal to my mates though. I need advice bad becuase right now i would sell my soul for a night with her. HELP!

Thanks to all the PUA community who reply to this long post.

NOTE: THIS IS NOT ONEITIS! I HAVE MANY OTHER WOMEN AND I JUST FIND THIS HB10 SUPER APPEALING!

Remove yourself from the situation to see it from an outside perspective and you will see that it is oneitis, especially if you've become obsessed enough to think about betraying your friend.

Whether you wanna call it oneitis or just an immature lack of self-control, it's the same crap.

Moving this thread to the Newbies section.

Ok fine. Whatever. Its oneitis. I want to know how to get rid of it. I have gone and had other wemon but it doesnt matter. and no Chief, i am not thinking about betraying my friend. im thinking about NOT betraying him which is the whole point. He knows i think she is hott and said "Go for it man" but it still is dog as. Wow Chief. I was feeling alot of hate right there. I just want some adivice on how to get this bitch to piss off

If you just want her to "piss off" then just tell her you're not into her. If you want to be more direct with it, just tell her get lost and explain why.

Yeah I want to but she keeps IOIing me and i just ignore her and dont pay attention. Next time i see her i will. Cheers rain63

What you focus on, whether it's something you want or do not want, will manifest into your reality. It's like when you meditate and you FOCUS on thinking about NOT thinking about something, but in turn you end up thinking about it.

Your subconscious is unable to process negatives. Regardless of whether you were thinking about doing something or focusing on NOT doing it, you're setting up your destiny to make it happen.

You must be self-aware to overcome oneitis. If you truly recognize what you are feeling as obsession instead of healthy attraction, you have the conscious choice to move toward something better for yourself. If you are going that GFTOW route, you can't do it while thinking "alright, I have to fuck this ONE more girl so I can forget about my oneitis." You have to live in the moment and really invest yourself into each and every woman you encounter, to find out what's really special about them. That's why GFTOW works.

Ahem...but on a side note, if HE said "Go for it man..." go for it man LMAO