Okay so I have this friend, he is one of my closest friends. He always gets ladies, LOTS of them. I have always been amazed how he gets so many of them. Since I have been coming here, I have been watching how he does it and I am convinced (although he wont admit it), that he must have been doing this awhile b/c he has it down. Anyways, he was a rocker band guy for years so that always helps too Im sure.

My question is this...now that I am going after more women, it seems like he wants to challenge me on them. Anytime I mention a girl that I might have a shot with, he steps in and makes some comment about how he will get them. He has already stolen one woman away that I really was interested in, then he dropped her on her ass and moved on.

Now he wouldnt do that if he knew I was genuinely interested in a woman that I wanted to date. However, women that just pass through, he seems to always try to one-up me. (and to be honest, he is already way past one-up, he is more like 100-up).

I am frustrated, on the one hand, he is my friend and I enjoy hangin with him. On the other, I am afraid to bring any woman around b/c I dont want to have to deal with him trying to steal them away while Im not looking.

Any advice on this?

Realize that he is not a very good friend. If he is such a natural and a good friend then he should be winging you not stealing your targets. I am curious as to how you react when he does this? Do you let it be known that you are not ok with his behavior?

I would suggest not sarging with him or at least until you have more experience. Also, try to consciously think about your body language. By reading your post I can almost guarantee you that your friend is displaying a lot more alpha qualities than you while you just slump back. Realize he is NOT better than you.

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Not a PUA just a girl offering my opinions/advice

While I do understand what you are saying, I do still think he is a good friend. However, I think he may have some confidence issues that he hides well (these dont show up in his outer game). We have known each other forever and I am much more successful in my career than he has been. I think that he may be trying to outdo me with women to show his success with that.

In addition, there have been instances where I have told him how I felt about a particular girl and he has backed off (at least as far as I know he has).

What kind of things could I do (body language wise) to appear more alpha when Im hangin out with him? He is very laid back and doesnt move very quickly. He is the classic rocker guy.

just dont go sarging with him, do any other guy stuff except picking up girls, i also have a similar friend who likes to one-up me and everyone around him, the best strategy for me is having higher energy when we're together, and if your friend is laid back rocker type that should be easy

you get more attention being more high energy, dont give him an opportunity to one-up you

I definitely have more energy as far as interactions go. However, he does have stamina. My town goes all night and never shuts down so stamina counts. He is able to hang in there until the end of the night and that gets him lots of late night visitors. I have a career to worry about so I cant do that every night.

save it for the weekend, you can develop a small case of insomnia... that'll teach you stamina, try getting six or five hours of sleep instead of 8

lol, I actually kind of understand your situation. My BEST FRIEND is just straight up amazing when it comes to getting women! I mean, I had a girlfriend that I was in love with break up with me and call him telling him she broke up with me because she thought she had a shot with him(ouch!). He's my boy though, so he turned her down and told me about it. He is better looking than me I think, but it's more than looks because he has an identical twin brother who could never get hb10 after hb10 the way he does. Anyway, in your case I think the advice these guys gave you is good. Don't go sarging with him until you have game gotten your game up to his level. As for stamina, on a couple different occasions I went out sarging, had sex all night with hb's and went to work the next morning on NO SLEEP...It definitely hurt but I made it through and it was worth the price I paid -Lennon

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