I met this girl a year ago -- we made out a bunch, but no sex. Both of us were sort of in the middle of wack relationships...

We are both single now, and started hanging out again. We hung out, and made out every time we hung out -- the third time we kicked it, we had great sex for about an hour.

We haven't seen each other since, I've sent her a few texts and talked to her once on the phone. Nothing major -- she was gone for a week on business, now is back, but we still haven't hung out.

I see two possibilities:
1) she's a player, and just wanted to hook up
2) she digs me, but knows I'm a player, and is distancing herself from me because she doesn't want to get hurt.

I want to spend more time with her -- looking for advice on how to proceed.. I've been playing it cool.. but i'm also a bit confused.. generally, after having sex girls get more attached -- and with her, it seems to be the opposite...

She's hot, a model & professional woman in her late 20's.

Interested in ideas here, thanks.

Don't quote me because I don't think we know quite enough to really call it, but it sounds like maybe things weren't approached and set up properly and now she's got buyer's remorse.

I have been in a similar situation before and it can be tricky to figure out what is going on in a woman's head. After sex it can get tricky even in the most casual relationships. I think it is inevitable that things get weird after sex. They tried to nail down rules in Seinfeld and it didnt work out there. I think you should just back off and try to take your mind off of her and see where it goes. I am still a newbie but I would guess that there isnt much you can do to move things forward through action. Therefore, no action would probably work best in this case.