Well, I'll have to tell you some stuff about myself before I can ask for some advice. As a note: I'm not a native english speaker.
I've read some threads and to my astonishment, I realized that I've done a lot of things that you in here call some weird names without knowing...
I'm the kind of guy, that women go crazy at the first moment (and for a bit longer) but when they realize that I'm (well not so anymore) somehow slow...
On the dancefloor I usually get surrounded by women pretty fast, girls call me and want to meet me, they call me an asshole while laughing, well you get the idea.
I've had (beautiful) females asking me stuff like:
She: I want to fuck with you (after speaking to her about 15 minutes)
Me: ...
Me: ...
Me: ...
Me: laughter
She: why are you laughing!? (angry)
Me: sorry, no one has asked me in such a short time and so directly, never
She: so lets go..
Me: not now, just take it easy girl!
(It did happen, she was a foreigner, after I drunk my beers)
She: When are we going to have sex?
Me: When it's time for it
(It never happened, she scared me away)
Me: It was a cool day, we've had almost everything
She: We haven't had EVERYTHING
Me: I'm not in the mood
She:
Me: "Don't worry, someday we will do EVERYTHING"
(It never happened, she scared me away)
She: "I WAN'T HIM" (while grabbing my arse)
(I run away while she is running after me)
She: NEVER SOMEONE HAS DONE THAT TO ME!!!!
Me: There is always a first time for everything
(It will happen)
etc...
What a whimp you'll say, but the "scared away" is rooted in my childhood, sadly some really shitty stuff happened to me, that inhibited me for a long, long time. I worked hard to get those fears (nothing to do with approaching and stuff like that) away and I've managed to get most of the crap out of my head... I'm not quite there but soon I will.
Now, there's that girl I wanna have and she want's me (she is the "It will happen" dialogue). But I have the impression that both of us are doing some stuff wrong. She is very intelligent and beautiful and she only needs to clip with her fingers and there are 300 studs around her eager to please her.
We've been out for dinner and things like that. Not often since she has to work a lot...
Sometimes, I'll go to her place with other girls (she is a club-manager) and she gets rabidly jealous and can't hide it. It's really obvious, some of "my" girls have noticed that. For example: I'm with Julia, flirting, Eva (the girl I want) sees that, gets jealous, looks at me with the "what have you got there?" smile. Eva approaches Julia, both look at eachother... Julia then tells me: "If a look could kill, then I would be dead by now".
Then Eva asks those strange questions only women can ask...
Stuff like:
She: Will you buy me a watch?" (While standing in front of a shop)
Me: It's too early, we're not at that stage right now
She: laughter...
She: Do you wan't to marry? (She asks me that periodically)
Me: sure
She: How many children do you want?
Me: You said 2, didn't you?
She: You want to marry me?!
Me: of course
(always in a casual voice tone)
She does some work...
(after a while and some conversation)
She: Ha, you want to marry me
Me: That's what you want as well
She: ....
She: oh no! If i go on vacations with you, I will fall in love with you!!!
Me: you ARE already
She: ...
She: but, don't be jealous if I flirt with other men!!!
Me: WHAT!?!? Look who's talking about jealousy!!!
She: Will you pay my phonebill? It's so expensive...
Me: You're a rich dudette!!!
She: You're gay!
Me: Sure, whatever
And so on...
The last thing I told her (she was quite drunk at that moment, so was I) , while she was surrounded by three guys that were obviously drooling (she loves the attention she gets from people in general), I took her head whispered to her ear: "I love you", she replied, "me too" kissed her (cheeks), walked away, went home and let her there...
In the language I told her that, it's not quite the "I love you" as it is in english. If "I like you", in a scale from 1 to 10 is 7 and "I love you" is 10, then what I said would be a 8.5...
I haven't contacted her since then, that was some 3 days ago...
Well, there would be some other 100 stories to tell about my interactions with her and if she hasn't a crush on me, then she's crazy.
But then, she's distanced, ignores me... I get the impression that she's unsure, that she's afraid of me or something... Well 2 years ago she had a disapointment with a boyfriend that cheated her, she wanted to marry that guy.
This whole drama is going on for three months! And no, I'm not fixated, I've had other "thingies" in the meantime...
She's a hard nut and sometimes I get the impression that she has read one of those weird books, something like "how do I get the man of my life" (I wouldn't mind being that man, really)...
Has anyone an idea of what I'm doing wrong?
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