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Alright so I know this girl who has a BF who has been a friend of mine for awhile now. We haven't seen each other in about half a year until as of late. This past Tuesday I spent almost the whole day with her. We decided to hang out, have lunch and she spent the whole day with me in my apartment. Played witht he guitar... talked... but in the end nothing happened. After getting out of a long term relationship I'm a terrible AFC at the moment, in which I'm trying to get back at my feet. I guess my meet with her last week was to establish comfort and rapport again. I mean, i'm trying to get into habit of having an intention/objective during a second date just like what Jeffries recommended in his book. Also I read alot of advices from you guys in here. I did a lot of CF in which she laughed, and was able to establish that comfort as well as Push and Pull. At the same time, I kino-ed her... although it was minor. Did some ESP and held her hand, rub lotion in her arms... etc. Although I didn't make it seem obvious... I did indirectly gotten to know how her relationship is with her BF and it's pretty bad. (He selfish and he's using her as someone he can just settle with). She just doesn't want to break up with him because of several reasons.
In the end, I guess I want to see if I can K-close. If its even possible. I get hints of IOIs but I don't want to mistake it. I also don't wanna K-close and mess up and have her freak out in the end. (this is my limiting factor)
She sorta counters some of my stuff with an interesting question such as.
Me - Do you consider yourself hot? (random question)
Her - no (she's shy and pessimistic) Why, do you think I'm hot?
There are more examples... but it seems like she's trying to see if I like her or something by asking questions liek shes curious or something. Im nto sure of the reason..
Somewhere around our convo today after a comment I made (If it was me comment)
Her - why? Are you interested in me?
Me - Not unless you pay me.
Her - whoa... (She probably took it wrong so I started to think bad of what I said and I needed to say something better or build up on it)
Me - I never said money
Her - I hope that wasn't anything sexual?
Me- How many licks does it take to get to the center of a tootsie roll lolipop?
Her - huh
Me - The answer to your question is the same as the answer to the question I posted above. "the world may never know"
her - lol
Should I increase Kino further? What else should I do... I know I'm not doing something right. Cause I keep gettign hit with the LJBF comment. Not directly but she keeps referring to us a friends a lot. or putting emphasis on it... We cant do to that bc we're friends (during a joke I made about kissing)
For the ljbf zone, deal with it immediatly.
Increase kino like you said, and say 'I promise nothing of the sort. Friends would never back each other in a corner like this. All I can promise is I will never do anything that you or I are not totally comfortbe with.
Then kiss her.