Money will get you a gold digger or a prostitute. What's it gonna be? Bear in mind that by actively showing off your money you will appear arrogant, so along with drastically narrowing your selection of women you'll also be pissing off all the other potentials in the process. Don't do this shit.
You did well in NY so your abilities are proven. The same techniques will work back home, but you need to let go of some unfounded emotional drawbacks first. I'm no psychiatrist but I'm guessing that outside of your normal surroundings you were able to don a sort of social mask, and you were able to step out of your comfort zone due to diminished fear of reprisal. These people didn't know you and you were never going to see them again. It boosted your confidence and you didn't care about them, and that's why you performed well - because you didn't give a shit. So, look around you and think to yourself... are these people really that different? Their opinions of you will be exactly the same and if you come across a girl who doesn't like you why should you make a big deal out of it? Fuck them. Stop caring so damn much about your reputation and what people think of you and get off your ass and do it. Your mind will make excuses for you not to and you may even feel fear, but you need to tell your mind to go fuck itself and start listening to your heart and your balls.
No more of this "I can't do it" crap, you can do it and you know you can. You're just making excuses because failure at home seems like a bigger deal than it was in NY. Think about it this way, when you were up there you didn't care about the people around you, their stupid opinions... and that is what caused you to succeed. Imagine the situations and the good times you had when you were on top of your game. Focus on the positive emotions, you'll actually start to feel the happiness you felt when you were there in the moment. You felt pretty fucking good right? Then ask yourself if it really matters what people think and you'll laugh to yourself and say
fuck no! Before that feeling goes away, get your ass out there and have a good time meeting some girls so you can get back to us with a kickass field report.
