hey guys... theres this girl I had a pretty big crush on in like junior year right. and we used to be friends before she moved away. We recently started chatting again. and she told me she had a crush on me too in the past.

we've been talking again for like a week and some change, and I asked her out. but she said. she isn't ready because she doesn't want to say no because she likes me but then again she doesn't wanna say yea. I'm a little stuck kinda and really don't know which direction to take it.

although we are still talking. but this has been a horrible month for me man. I've been stressing like hell and it wasn't until recently that I've noticed that all the game that I had before has deteriorated.

I'm running out of interesting things to say and i'm losing my edge dramatically since late april i've been going downhill. anybody got some more advice on getting me back in the zone quickly.

because even though i am still a beginner to PUA i feel as if I've started all over again. please help.

-Nova

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Pretend you just don't want her anymore.

I have a friend with a case similar to yours. Once he started doing what I told him to do (he is an AFC), things got better.

I don't know too much about you but i'd recommend you:
a)get the mind set that you are just friends but DON'T let her feel too comfortable around you. there must be a bit of sexual tension.
b)just don't talk again about getting serious with her
c)if she does it, act like it's NO BIG deal
d)tease her by "showing" (be careful not to overdo it) her what would she get if you two get into a serious relationship (you can build a conversation about love and say what are your ambitions with your lover.. try to do cute things). Many of the other PUA's will agree with me here: DON'T MAKE IT TOO OBVIOUS. And also, don't say anything that would be interpreted by her as you parading your crush on her.
e)Please, pleeeease!!! Do what is necessary but AVOID getting in the Let's just be friends zone! I believe you are almost there.


Women are wonderful creatures but sometimes we get trapped.

thats some great advice! I'll try that... as for the almost being in the LJBF zone I beleive so too. yesterday she said i was her BFF and I responded by saying no I wanna be more than that. It was a pretty AFC thing to say but I couldn't find anything else to say. Im losing my skill I couldn't risk being thrown in that area.

LOL I feel ya man. I was in the BFF zone for a while, then tried to game a girl without taking a break... Lets just say the last few months were interesting (VERY emotional and confusing as hell, but interesting).

The thing about this kind of relationship is that the girl "loves" you, but she doesn't "lust" you. They care enough about you to make you happy, but it's not the same as a lover . I came to the conclusion that this is the reason pickup works: Lust > Love.

Basically, I'd say do what I'm doing: take a breather. Even though I COMPLETELY AFC'd EVERYTHING, I'm giving myself time to change my mindset, skillset, and confidence level and not talk to her (I even told her I need a break after I AFC'd and looked 100% needy/desperate [even TELLING her that is AFC obviously]). After all those things are accomplished THEN decide if you want to get with her after you've made progress with pickup and shopped around a bit.

I believe our situation is shared because it appears that you care about her and she cares about you (basically a relationship without lust). We just have to pull through it and cut our final tie from being PUAs. It's a hard way, but I'm about a week into my decison and I'm starting to feel a lot better about it.

Hopefully this helped somewhat .

I like this advice.... I'll take it in and see how everything turns out.