So this girl that im hanging out with has never had a bf or dated and HAS ZERO game.

So im not really in the mindset I am with most girls where I have to play the type of phone games ( Like say I call her, and she purposely doesnt answer so that I have to call her again the 2nd time and then shell pick up sort of thing)


So to make a long story short....

So for 4-20, I texted her chatted...and was like call me when your HIGH, ps I have something to tell you.

So she called me 2 hours later while I was sleeping .

Me: so are you high right now?

HB: no im only a little high, what was it that you wanted to tell me?

Me: I was like ummm youre not HIGH right now so ill tell you some other time.

HB: can you really not tell me when im not high?

Me: nope, ill just tell you some other time then

(so at this moment I can tell her IOI drops significantly)

And I didnt want to end the convo there so I just started off with inviting her to kick it again.

And ask her "Can you make it?" (when I should have been like, "I think you would really enjoy this")

So she says: it depends if she has schoolwork that weekend. etc.


And SO.....

I end the call in 3min or something hella shittilyy like that and am totally disappointed by the way the convo went.


I try to call her again 3 days later...


For the last 6 months, everytime I called her she would pick up right away or get back to me ASAP when she got the missed call...like if she was in the theatre she would text me saying shes watching a movie and ask wassup?


But so I call her at 12pm and it goes to voicemail...i dont leave a message...

She never calls back...
And so I call again at 8pm and this time I leave a message like I need your opinion on something etc.


So she calls back at 9pm while im in the shower and is like "sorry i missed your calls I just got home now, you can call me now if you want to, ill be here"



So I call her back, convo goes smoothly... tell her I cant make the invitation I gave out to her earlier in the week because ill be busy. etc. and leave it with a "I hope you have fun on your bar hopping trip this Friday..." and she says Hb: "You too" type of thing.

Without every having either of say, hopefully i'll see you soon or making any plans for future events or anything like that.



SO SHIT!!!!


Did I just totally fuck myself over by showing too much IOI's???

So Should i just back off completely and not make any attempt to contact her until she contacts me?

or should I wait a few days and drop attack with another phone call with a question i need answered? and then take control

nah dude.. You said you've known this chick for 6 months? You should have escalated this a long ass time ago like in the first month if you wanted it to go anywhere... I'm guessing you might even be friendzoned at this point. If she's still giving you IOIs, you maintain that push-pull, and somewhere along the line ask her if she wants to kiss you. I'm assuming you've been Kino'ing as well.

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Yea I definitely know what youre saying...


like at first, I didnt even notice her and I saw her just as a friend. but I guess she started hinting at the fact that she had a crush on me

by always running up to hold my hand or arm when were at parties or its cold outside and walking around with me.

or laying on my shoulder when were sitting down.

and she was grabbing my hand when we were at her bday party when we took pictures together.


I honestly didnt even notice her at first, and now I think shes alright.


AM I REALLY IN THE FRIEND MODE? fuck.

Yeah im just really confused with how to best attack this girl since shes super shy and has had NO GUY EXPERIENCE what so ever.

Im not even sure if shes ever kissed a guy before.

you are definitely gonna be in the friendzone if you keep pretending to not be interested in her.

You cant be all push and no pull. Read this.
been-hangin-around-push-pull-vt20867.html

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"Life's not a bitch, Life is a beautiful woman" -Aesop Rock

Awww, don't attack girls
That's not very nice.

Since she's never had a BF she may still see you as a potential BF.

Just be playful and flirt with her constantly and make things fun. Give her a number of compliance tests and take a look at how much time she is willing to invest with you. When you feel her attraction towards you is high, try using a combination of DD's kiss test and mystery's k close.

A Tip on # closing and date closing.
When you're flirting and conversation is on a high, or just after you have made her laugh, thats the time to ask.

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thanks for the help

So a month ago she use to pick up all my calls or call me back right away. But now she waits 24 hours before she calls me back.

and im not sure if this is a game her roommates taught her to play...or shes just genuinely losing interest because I havent seen her in person for like a full month.

The last conversation I had, I just brought up old positive memories and played the whole how did u feel when this happened etc.


So should I just take off for awhile and give her no contact while letting her see pictures of these girls I pick up on my facebook, or should I do one hard compliance test to drag her out to a spectacular activity with me and then escalate from there?